My somewhat boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years now. We started out very loving, caring, sweet, and all those musshy stuff. But now I don't know where the relationship is going. Here's the thing, when we are both in good moods, we cuddle and do all nice stuff together. But then when we fight, we really do get way out of hand. And the funny thing is we always keep saying that we both should end up the relationship and move on separate live. But after 2 or 3 days either i or him would always find a way to patch up things. WHEN DO YOU GET TO THE POINT THAT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH? EVEN IF YOU LOVE THE PERSON SO MUCH?
2006-12-04 20:32:16 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you love a person "that much", nothing is enough.. Unless that person stops loving you.. so hold on.. all relationshipz start off perfect, n somehow go through stuff later on, the thing that makez relationshipz work izn't "pure perfection",coz all couplez fight, everyone getz mood-swingz every now n'then, & no one'z happy all the time .. so seriously, u just gotta be patient, if the two of you love each other soo much & go through fightz n'stuff, that doeznt mean the relationship wont work, this iz just LIFE. If you & everyone else give up after stuff like this happen, we'd all end up alone . Just like u want ur guy to swallow ur crap, u should swallow hiz!! & no couple NEVER fightz, thatz impossible!
If ur willing to break up with a guy ur crazy about to look for someone ull never fight with, might az well live alone n never bother gettin in a relationship again.
Be patient, u just mentioned the two of u "do" have good timez, which meanz the relationship iz healthy.so try to focus on that & good luck.
2006-12-04 20:43:54 · answer #1 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually when the fighting is so intense that you don't talk for days, but end up back together, it was meaningless or a very minor issue. If you really care about this person then work on a better way to communicate when issues arise. one thing I definitely advise is that you listen to each other. Don't yell over each other, and take time to listen to what is actually being said.
Every relationship has its moments, not all of them happy and glorious. Do your part to contribute to a healthy relationship and he will follow.
Are you guys similar or opposites? There are cases like mine, that you are so much alike that when you love, you love hard and when you fight you think its the end of the world. You bump heads because you are so much alike, but you understand that the issue was for the moment and you let go and don't hold a grudge.
Best of luck!
2006-12-04 20:45:34 · answer #2 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the problem may not be that you two aren't meant for each other, but that you don't know how to 'argue.' There are ways to say what you're feeling without letting your tempers get the best of you. If you have access to a councellor, now would be a good time to seek one out. (If you're worried about cost, many colleges have free services they can offer - try that route).
Or, it's possible that you two are fighting tooth and nail because there's one (or more) aspects of your lives that totally aren't compatible. The next time you fight, write down what you initially started fighting about, as well as what else was brought up. When you've calmed down, take this list to him and see if you can reach some sort of compromise on those issues. (Again, a councellor would be very beneficial.)
Best of luck to you!
2006-12-04 20:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by the_bald_one_mpls 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think that this is the end of your relationship because it only happens when youre both in a bad mood. I gues you guys are just sorta venting out, the bad thing is, youre venting it out, on each other. I suggest that you talk about it. Try to make a pact to fix the problem before anyone says "lets end it", also, see the problem as, only a problem that can be fixed, not as something damaging. I also suggest that you guys try to be respectful towards the other even during an argument, its hard and weird, but it makes a world of change.
2006-12-04 20:57:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well obviously when u r in love its not that easy to realise but these ups and downs might provide some clue . i would say u r bound together cauze if bottom line of ur previou fights were patching up and getting back together then thats it he is the one for u . Its not an ideal world we live in neither do everything is perfect cauze ideal or best or perfect is divine bussiness for us humans we can only get so far . so what u r waiting for take ur relationship to the next level instead of thinking abt venturing out again
2006-12-04 20:39:28 · answer #5 · answered by godfather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you said you dont know where the relationship is going...
well,where do you wish it to go? does ur bf want it too? sit n talk to him bout it...maybe both of you arent searching the same things from ur rel. all along.but still, maybe you are.try talk to him about this..
n then if things still dont work out, i'll say it's time to move on...
unless ur fate says that you'll go on bickering with each other, had it enough, then patch things up again for the next 20 years , then it's already sealed that he'll still be in ur future..
2006-12-04 20:47:07 · answer #6 · answered by haru 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relationship sounds similar to one I was in. Id get out now, as what is going on is not good for your health. If I had stayed in mine for another month or so I probably would have been hospitalised from a stress related illness. Dont stay in a toxic relationship, get out while your health is still good.
2006-12-04 20:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by apocolypses_solar_storm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The time to separate has not come yet...keep kissing and cuddling..the right time in future is going to be when you will already be in somebody else's arms... but that day you will not need to ask this question, you will already have found the answer...
2006-12-04 20:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by swami04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 01:16:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to break the cycle....do you have kids if NO end it now.....your not a family.
If you do have kids tell him that you all need to set down and talk and find out were the problems emerge from.
2006-12-04 20:38:53 · answer #10 · answered by tracy_baker47246 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋