I know that society and even parents expect us to start dating around a certain age. But honestly, when I take a look at the people around me and the relationships that they have I just don't think I'm ready to handle all the "drama" (for the lack of better that comes with it). Is this normal? Or am I just thinking about it too much?
2006-12-04 20:23:49 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel that you're really quite mature, I mean, not many people know exactly when they are able to "handle a relationship". In fact, I'm sixteen, just two years younger than you are (and a girl to boot) and I don't feel ready to have a boyfriend (or girlfriend :P) either.
Everyone grows at a different rate. Take your time about it, don't rush into a relationship even if you don't really like the girl you're with just because you are being pressured by society to start dating. In fact, many people don't start dating at eighteen, it's just the popular media that portrays life in such a way and that goes on to influence people, especially impressionable teenagers.
Also, as an asides, there is such a thing as an asexual. Asexuals naturally have no sexual desire for either sex, but they are still normal people who can love and even get married 9that is, if the spouse is supportive).
2006-12-04 20:30:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing that you have to appreciate is that there is no right or wrong time to start dating or get into a relationship. You will know when you are ready and that is the right time for you. All people are different and have different ideals when it comes to things of this nature.
As a 30 year old guy, I wasn't seriously involved with anyone til I was about 25 and when I met her, I knew that I was interested in more than a short 2 month fling.
Don't misunderstand me, I dated a lot and had a string of, for want of a better word, "casual" realtionships that were all short lived but lots of fun. It's just that when I met someone special, my ouotlook changed and I suddenly found myself wanting more.
You are still young, go out meet chicks, flirt and see where that takes you. If you have a few short affairs......that is entirely up to you. You'll know when teh right person for you comes along and then I'm sure your ideals will change too.
Enjoy the ride dude!!
2006-12-04 20:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it's quite normal. Everyone matures at their own pace. When you're ready, everything will happen naturally. I had my first boyfriend at 21 and was ready to handle all the responsibilites of having a serious relationship.
I'm actually glad that it took me that long to date since it made me really enjoy my high school and college years.
Follow your heart but think with your head. :)
2006-12-04 20:42:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rose E. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usual--as in "uncomplicated or standard"--? No. besides the fact that, you're no longer undesirable or something. For commonplace applications, i might evaluate speaking to a doctor and having a hormonal assay carried out as nicely as figuring out if any drugs you would be taking so as that they are in a position to be assessed. in case you haven't any longer something unusual with those tests, each little thing's as much as you. If there is a few thing unusual, it is going to additionally be as much as you no count in case you needed to attempt some thing to probably replace the form you experience. (the only reason I advise speaking to a doctor is the fact some wellbeing circumstances can appear this style and a few human beings finally end up wanting to alter after the fact. in case you're certainly the form you're, this isn't any longer likely a scientific situation. ) otherwise, this is as much as you. one element you will desire to be attentive to however is the fact many human beings won't sign up somebody your age devoid of sexual interest and would have subject adjusting on your techniques. you would be able to evaluate co-opting using social cues like "purity jewelry" or different indicators to deliver the message you're no longer finding for relationships with the intention to steer away from skill conflicts. stable success.
2016-10-14 01:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal,there's nothing abnormal about it.To be in a relationship takes alot and you have to be ready to do that,so there's nothing wrong if ur heart isn't set for such task.When you feel like strarting relationship and you're sure you are ready then cool.Though i must commend for thinking maturedly instead of rushing in cos people are.Cheers bro.
2006-12-04 21:38:49 · answer #5 · answered by Missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, 18's pretty young. It's the time to focus on education and careers. You'll have plenty of time for a relationship when you're ready.
2006-12-04 21:44:42 · answer #6 · answered by DawnDavenport 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude,its normal.at 18 u gotta enjoy ur life.
But, once u meet that special girl(the one 4 u),i am sure that u 2 will fall head over heels 4 her.no doubt in that.its way of the world.
thats how it works
2006-12-04 21:42:10 · answer #7 · answered by jake_bose 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal, don't worry. people have different levels of maturity and maybe relationships are still not for you right now. don't rush it or give in to pressure or else, you may end up in an awkward situation.
2006-12-04 20:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by *fireflies* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get into a relationship when you are ready.not when the society thinks you are ready.
2006-12-04 20:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that that's an incredibly mature decision. Admire you for that esp at such a young age!
2006-12-04 20:26:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋