i met up with this guy i liked for 6 years a few months ago and we saw each other for 2 months and texted all the time he told me he was just out of a long term relationship and did want to get into another i feel his relationship ended badly. i told him i couldn't be with him as i feel i am going to end up hurt as i felt he had enough to contend without me adding to his problems as i want a relationsip with him i am mad about him. i pulled away to give him time as i didn't want to be his rebound or his fun while getting over his pass relationship am i doing the right thing i am mad about him should i text now and again or just leave him. please help
2006-12-04 20:07:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You did a very hard and grown up thing by letting him go, even when your heart said otherwise. Well done! It is not many people who can be this strong.
OK, so depending on how long ago this was, why not just text him and say "Hello, how are you?" or "Hi, thinking of you! How's it going?" This way you will let him know you still think of him, and will give him the opportunity to open the communication again. If he replies, take it from there. Possibly say "Hey, what about a drink sometime?" And see what his reply is to that. Good luck! I hope it works out for you. Either way, what is meant to be will be.
Remember the saying "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back to you, its your forever. If it doesn't come back, it was never meant to be!"
2006-12-04 20:43:42 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey...
It's hard but you've most definitely done the right thing. It shows you respect yourself and what you currently have with him to not want to end up in a big mess... when he's just got out of one.
It's not nice being the rebound girl... and i think in the long run, he'll respect you for what you're doing. And you never know, the fact that you're that serious about him may just make him realise how much he feels for you in time....
As for texting.. well, i think the odd text now and then is fine.. so long as you don't do it to the point of being clingy!! With any luck, the odd text to stay in touch may just make him see that no matter what, you're still there.... however, make sure he doesn't end up taking advantage of that!
Good luck... i hope things work out! x
2006-12-04 22:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by gorgeous_ami 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You say this guy "Did want to get into another" Is this correct or a typo?
If he says he is ready then he is ready.
You can never predict how a relationship is gonna work out so why try?
If you don't go for it you will never know! Text him and get the ball rolling and stop being a wimp.
He says he wants you - so what more do you want?
You want him - so go for it!
Then you'll know how things turn out and won't have to ask us. And remember, you only regret the things you don't do, and the times you didn't follow your own path!!
2006-12-04 21:42:57 · answer #3 · answered by kiku 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi
I think you did the right thing and yes it will be difficult but you do need to keep away for a while. Otherwise you will be the rebound girl...so keep strong and try to get on with life and have some fun! He will turn up for you if he is meant for you!
Good luck!
2006-12-04 21:04:06 · answer #4 · answered by Susie Drew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right to not want to be the rebound person. Give him time to get over it for a while. But there's nothing that says you can't be his friend while you are waiting for him to get over it. Support him and remain in touch but don't put too much pressure on him. If he then messes you about once you've given him enough time then maybe rethink the situation then... Good Luck!
2006-12-04 20:11:08 · answer #5 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you did exactly the right thing. You probably would have ended up hurt. However, who says it's over, right? Yeah, send him a text. Just say what's up how's life? If he get's back to you then it's cool to talk once in a while. See what happens. If he doesn't though, let it go. He know's where to find you.
2006-12-04 20:11:49 · answer #6 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wait little bit more, try to be a good friend to him for the moment. Later you will find out if he likes you a lot and you can start you relation with him, or if you realize that there is nothing ....just leave!
2006-12-04 20:11:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you did the right thing in protecting yourself from getting hurt. Good Job!
2006-12-04 20:09:33 · answer #8 · answered by ○○I am kayla○○ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
leave him alone why love 1 dumb guy when there are millions of guys that can treat u like a real woman
2006-12-04 20:09:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes....but you should text him now and then...not everyday but mabe once a week or every other week...n make sure he knows why your doing what ur doing... but dont push him away....also make sure he knows how u feel still but just tell him u think he needs his space.or somthin like that
2006-12-04 20:12:33 · answer #10 · answered by lauren b 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋