How do i keep my nephew from corrupting my daughter?

Question

I had to move back with my mother recently and my sister's 2 year old son is also living with her. Im scared he's gonna be a bad influences on my daughter cause of his bad behavior, He screams, fighs, hits and cuses at my daughter who just turned one and every time i try to scold him he tell's me no or shut up. PLEASE HELP! i need some advice my daughters already started to pick up on some of his bad habits.

Answer 1

be firm if you think that your nephew is doing something wrong and your daughter is copying tell them both off him for starting it and her for copying. Don't worry if he tells you no. It might seem unfair to your daughter because shes younger but she will learn that she gets in trouble when she copy's him.

Answer 2

It could be a little challenging, but try to live as if you have your own apartment and do with her what you'd do in that situation. Its easy to slip into the thing about running out to the store and leaving the baby with Mom and the nephew; but don't do that.

At one year old (and until about three, when they really start wanting to playing with other little kids) your baby's brain will develop best if she's with you most of the time. At her age, she'll, of course, nap; so you'll get a break then and when she sleeps.

Try to schedule your day in a way that limits her exposure to the other little one. For example, bring her down for breakfast and have breakfast with whoever is or isn't in the kitchen or dining room; but then either go back to your room and let her play while you do whatever there is to do (watch tv, listen to the radio, sort mail, fold laundry, etc.) or else bring her out somewhere for a couple of hours.

Maybe you could have a little inexpensive lunch out somewhere. (Bring her bottle and pack some finger foods that make a good lunch for her or else bring a jar of baby food kept hot.) After lunch you could bring her home for a nap and have some time for yourself.

When she wakes up you could stay in your room (or another part of the house where the nephew isn't) and be with your baby while she plays and you do whatever - talk on the phone, fold laundry, etc.

You could join the family a dinner time and put her in a high chair so she can have dinner (and not be down playing with the nephew). If he acts up at dinner while she's there it isn't likely to do much in terms of influencing her. Its the day-in/day-out, constant exposure that will do it.

After dinner, spend a little time with her, Give her a bath, Put her to bed, and you'll have the night to yourself.

If you go out bring her with you. If you work see if you can find someone else to care for your daughter other than your mother.

You could alter the above type of schedule to fit your own days, but, as you can see, its fairly easy to limit her exposure to him. At the same time, you'll be spending quality time with your little girl and nobody else; and you can talk to her about what you're doing and play with her - and she'll really benefit.

Answer 3

Oh, what a mess! That is a bad situation. I would talk to your daughter and tell her there are some things her cousin does that isn't acceptable to you. Remind her that because he is not your son you don't have control over telling him what is right and wrong. But you are HER mother and just because he does .............. remember I expect better of you and I know you know better than to act like that. Let her know that you know she wouldn't behave like that and that will help you a lot. She will be proud she doesn't act like that instead of looking up to him as a role model instead she will know she doesn't want to be like him. I would also talk to your Mother and his Mother about him speaking to you with such disrespect and that you are concerned that she will immulate his behavior. Good luck!

Perhaps you could take her on little outings or bring her special treats and tell her they are for not behaving like ...... or doing...... make sure you tell her how proud you are of how she behaves, the rewards for good behavior will help them become a habit. Swiftly let her know when she does something you don't want her to. Say things like I don't want to do this but because you copies ................ and did .................... you need a time out to think about why it's not a good idea to do ........................ Speak to her without acting in anger. Tell her you know it's hard but she can't do ...............

Kids are smarter than people give them credit for, now is the time for her to start thinking of what are good and bad choices as well as consequences for unacceptable behavior. A good rule of thumb is 1 minute for each year of age for time out. Explain to her why you don't want her to do these things rather than just a 'no'. She can understand you!

Answer 4

shove your nephew into a room close the door and dont let him out when your daughter starts to imitate what you nephew is doing simply sit her next to you and speak to her like this.... your nephew got put in time out he cant play with toys or have any fun and if you keep doing bad stuff then mamas gonna have to do it to you to baby....you dont have to say it that way or anything but since shes so young just put it into a simple way that will also make her think like she wants to play and have toys so use that against her and your daughter will get it as for your nephew if you believe in a light spank go ahead i dont so id put him somewhere so he could not corrupt my daughter or son!!! i hope i helped you e-mail me if you need n e more advice ♥

Answer 5

ask your mom to help you "fix" the boy's behavior. advising your daughter to not copy him may not be effective. but dealing with him directly may work.