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So, I have a date in two days with this cute girl I just met. I'm really nervous though because I'm 22 and I've never dated before. I've had girlfriends, but like I never actually dated them in this way. All my previous girlfriends have been my friend first for awhile, and then we got feelings for each other and then started going out. But like I already knew them so I never had that awkward first date with any of them. But now I'm going on that first date where I don't really know the girl and we're getting to know each other.

She seems to like me and all, and she's already talking about a second date (she said "oh we can do that on the second date"), but can anyone give me tips on the first date conversation? What should I discuss? What NOT to bring up? How fast should I eat? Can I order a alcoholic beverage? Should I shave, or have a little stubble? Help!

2006-12-04 19:51:02 · 12 answers · asked by Timothy 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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just trust yourself man... be the one you realy are. dont be dronk but order some wine or anything...dont talk and even think about sex...good luck

2006-12-04 20:01:05 · answer #1 · answered by M*K*H 3 · 0 0

well, first of all it does seem that she likes you since she's already talking about a 2nd date when you haven't had a 1st one yet. So, that's good. My best tip for a fist date is don't go to a movie. I know people like to do that, but how can you have a conversation if you're in a movie theater trying to watch a movie? You can't. You're just sitting there, awkwardly close to someone, and wondering what's the protocol on hand holding. So, go somewhere you can have some good conversation. And my advice would be to go out to eat somewhere decent, where you can order a drink, cuz that's going to losen you both up a little so you can just relax and enjoy (or see if you enjoy) eachother's company. But don't go over board with the drinks. One or two is fine, after that she might think you drink a lot or something. Plus you gotta drive, right. Also, I think you should go looking basically how you usually do. If you don't regularly keep a close shave, then don't go with a fresh shave. I'm a firm believer in "no false advertising" on a first date. And you should eat at a moderate pace. Swallow before talking (I'm sure I don't have to tell you that, your mother should have 20 years ago), and remember, if you can't think of anything to say about yourself, ask her something about herself. People love to talk about themselves. Good luck!

2006-12-04 20:00:54 · answer #2 · answered by Smitten_Kitten 4 · 0 0

you shoud shave definatley, yah you can order an alcoholic drink just as long as you drink responsibly. dont act too nervous. if you really do feel nervous tell her..i really helps sounds silly but it does bcoz your letting her in.. opening your feelings to her and besides shes probably feeling nervous too! so dont worry about that too much. jst talk about anything that comes up as long as its not negativ. if a conversation begins to get hesitant or awkward just give a little laugh at it and move on.. dont look back. dont eat too quikly eat at the same pace as she does. ask her questions.. brothers n sisters? what did she study in school things like that :) and be a gentleman.. open doors for her n stuff

2006-12-04 20:01:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

shave. always look like you spent time trying to look good on the first date. she wants to know that she didn't waste her time looking good (don't forget to compliment the tatas)
Eat normal. Chew 20 times/swallow. Don't choke, that's embarrassing. If she eats fast, you can always just stop eating and act like you are stuffed.
Straight to dinner huh? Converse about all the things that you talked about before. Nothing deep. Just light stuff... weather, food, hot waitress.
Alcohol is fine. One or two drinks tops. esp if you are driving.
Don't feel like you have to know her by dinner. That's what date number 2 - 20 is for. Don't feel rushed.

If she's hot, do try to get laid.

cereal.

2006-12-04 19:55:40 · answer #4 · answered by cruddypantz 3 · 0 0

lol first, relax...eat normal...not fast like youre in a hurry to go somewhere else..better slow than fast. dont bring up your problems with past relationships or talk about good things about an ex either..that makes some of us feel awkward..ask her what are some of the things that interest her like sports, hobbies, etc. Shaving is definitely good specially in case you get a goodnite kiss...unless if was your stubble that made her fall for you..jk :)

good luck! :)

2006-12-04 20:03:58 · answer #5 · answered by lovingangel323 3 · 0 0

I DEFIANTLY WOULD SHAVE THE ONLY WHISKER U GOT ARE THE ONES THAT TAKE A CROW BAR TO HACK OFF SO IF YOU WANT TO NECK WITH HER AND MAKE OUT DON'T GIVE HER A HARD TIME WITH A RED FACE TO GO HOME WITH IT LOOKS LIKE HELL THE NEXT DAY AND HAS A HEAD GAME OF IT OWN ONCE IT HAS A NO WIN SITUATION BE MISTER NICE GUY THAT'S GOING TO BE A GREAT FIRST DATE IT MAKES BETTER SECOND DATES JUST TO KNOW YOUR GOING TO GET ONE YOU DON'T HAVE TO TRY ANYTHING STUPID CAUSE SHE LIKES YOU ENOUGH TO SAY YOUR GOING TO GET A SECOND DATE SO DON'T SCREW UP THE FIRST ONE, SHE'LL HELP U IF U RUN LOW ON BRAINS IT'S FUN TO BE YOUNG SCARES THE HELL OUT OF YA BUT SHOULD MAKE A GENTLEMAN OUT OF U TOO

2006-12-04 20:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by bev 5 · 0 0

Do try to look good for her but don't go over the top, if she's used to seeing you looking like a bum then take it up a couple notches, if she's used to seeing you dressed casually or dressed nicely then you probably know what to do.
You should shave.
Ask her about her interests, food, sports, school, her family, movies, work, where she lives, her future, etc. Don't bring up ex-boyfriends, sex, etc.
Be yourself, that's who she likes right? And PLEASE don't be all nervous, that's a turn off. But who knows, she might think it's cute and she'll be flattered.
Don't try to sleep with her, especially if you're interested in her, it's worth the wait.

2006-12-04 20:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by menina 2 · 0 0

u have to be a great man.cause people said that if u want to showed your style then be the best in the first performance.
u can talking many things like your hobbies,favorite movies,favorite places.there's many things you can discuss.it's can be natural conversation between you and your girl,okay.but remember don't drink too much cause your girl will be think that you are not a good man n perhaps she can thing you're drunker .try it.

2006-12-04 20:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by dearyn m 1 · 0 0

Hahaha. Just treat her as friend and things will work out fine. Don't look at her as a potential partner and relax. Do the things you would normally do.

2006-12-04 19:56:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i dont mean to be rude but you are stressing out way to much and you sound like a woman! she is the woman, let her do the stressing and just be calm and relaxed coz if you come across to her like you did to me in that question she will run a mile

2006-12-04 19:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by *juicyjellybean* 2 · 0 0

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