Does this sound controlling...?

Question

I am talking about my mother.
She became very restrictive when I was a Senior in high school. and didnt let me go out. Totally took away my social life.
When I tried to use the phone, she would ask me who I was calling.
She gave me curfews when I was in college.
She blocked the door from letting me go out when I was 20
When I was 23 she called up my boyfriends house telling him to send me home
When I was driving, she told me I must come right home.
When I was 20 she threw my things on the front lawn because she didnt want me to go out
She tells me that shes the only one that will love me as much as her.
She refused to let me have control over my finances in college.

Answer 1

She is a mother. some kids would love the attention...

Answer 2

It sounds to me like she is being overbearing, protective, concerned, and downright irrationally loving - just as a mother should be.

I know when I was younger I couldn't understand why my folks were so restrictive - listen, I was not permitted make-up of phone calls, so be glad you have them. I was not permitted sleep overs & the first time I went to a club I was 20. My folks never used up my money, but invested it for me until I was old enough to do it myself. I was made to pay rent and you know what...
I'm glad, and grateful, and although I'm not as strict, I can see where they were coming from - love. Sometimes they need to feel included. If you let them in, talk a few things over with them about your social life, they tend to ease up a lot, because they know you're okay, and they know they've raised you right.

Answer 3

Yes, it sounds very controlling. What the heck? Were you very untrustworthy? I can't imagine a 23-year-old having to account for her whereabouts, except in one situation. When you live with your mother, no matter how old you are, you are probably going to be expected to live by her rules. I think this is ridiculous for a grown woman, but I also know a lot of people whose grown children live with them, and are expected to account for their whereabouts.

If this behavior is still continuing, find your own place immediately. Your mother sounds like she may have some issues that have nothing to do with you.

Answer 4

Well...over protective maybe?

At 23 years old I was capable of making my own decisions and didn't need to get approval from anyone. If that were the situation at my house I would have moved out immediately after I graduated high school.

Answer 5

You know as of 18 you are an adult and should be treated as one. Yes she sounds a little controlling. Are you an only child that could be part of the reason to. Well your old enough to make your decisions now so do.

Answer 6

How old are you now and why are you living at home?

I'd live on the streets before I let someone treat me like that. Mom or no.

Answer 7

To your mom you will always be a baby,
Can’t blame her you are still with her at 23.
According to me your mom needs her rest,
This is her way of pushing you to leave the nest

Answer 8

Agree with DeeDee, think she might be insecure about herself. Try talking to her with another adult like your dad or relative to find out what is her REAL concern is. It might just be a way for her to seek for attention sub-consciously

Answer 9

Umm.... Yes, ur mother is being very overprotective, your an adult now, you should be able to do what u want, how old are you?

Answer 10

your mum might have concerns or worries that she is probably holding in (afraid of losing you, being alone etc)
Have you spoken to her about it? Maybe she needs to speak to someone who can help.
Psychologist or Counsellors might help or maybe a friend