I am 24 yrs old..and will be getting married to my gal next year..
..I love her much though we have many differences..but i am afraid whether my love towards her will be the same even after some years..bcoz after some years anyhow the physical attraction will not be there..I just want to be happy with her presence for the whole life..do u have any ideas?
2006-12-04 19:04:33 · 13 answers · asked by Richard 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you love her, you will always find her attractive. you sound too immature and unsure to be getting married! scary.
2006-12-04 19:07:54 · answer #1 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At least you two aren't rushing into this. You have some time to get to know each other better. So find out now what the differences are. Plan ahead for things like kids, jobs, money family where you will be living etc. Love is important and all. That is what brought you two together in the first place. But marriage has much to consider and involves the hard core reality issues. Not only are you two being united but your entire families are as well. So address these issues now, not only with yourselves, but with the rest of the family as well.
As for the physical attraction, that is a valid concern so you know very well it's going to change. It's a fundamental law of nature. Physically living beings,(people) grow old. Better to be more concerned with a spiritual well being because there in is where love dwells. For all times under all circumstance a true love will remain forever. It will be the light that will sustain you both as for the first time you first saw each other as well as for the many years you both will be bonded together. Keep this in mind and that happy presence that you seek with your beloved will be shared for the whole of both your lives.
2006-12-04 19:55:39 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get married. You do not sound like you are getting married for the right reasons. My husband always always tells me that he will feel the same way about me now and 40 years from now. That is a real man and that is real love. If you do not think you will be happy with her the rest of your life, then do not get married.
2006-12-04 19:08:38 · answer #3 · answered by His Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is best not to put the weight of your entire future on your shoulders. Just deal with things day to day. If you love her, go for it! Worry about those attraction things later. Don't worry now about whether the marriage is doomed in 15 years. Just do all you can now to make it work in the present, and then just keep on doing that.
2006-12-04 19:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by - 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marrying someone isnt just about the physical attraction, and you really need to take a good look at your relationship if youre having these thoughts now. Marriage should be forever.
2006-12-04 19:10:12 · answer #5 · answered by michelle s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The true test of a relationship come in time and through open and honest communication. If you can talk to your mate about anything, then chances are you will be able to get through any tough times ahead. Just remember to be open-minded, listen, be patient and understanding, and be willing to compromise when you don't completely agree. Ask the same of her and things should be just fine!
Congratulations and Best Wishes!
2006-12-04 19:09:56 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, firstly congratualtion to you and your fiance.
well u see. you love her. Thats all that matter. Part of being a couple is to conquer obstacles together. And u and your partner should really talk about this.
And 1 thing is really important. You gotta think positive towards ALL realtionships.
2006-12-04 19:12:40 · answer #7 · answered by perfectly_messy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a 65 percent possibility that you are not really in love with her-youre even contemplating and asking this quesition- you even imagine her outer appearance after some time, that is really shallow, ask yourself that,of course her beauty and youth will fade away- what would you feel if she also feels that way and that she is thinking what would you look like after several years- man , think really deeply,
2006-12-04 19:10:43 · answer #8 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide to take the plunge. Have some deep thinking within yourself - dont listen to other people. Only you know what is inside your heart and mind. To be happy, you have to let yourself go and trust in the future - whatever you decide to do.
2006-12-04 19:08:22 · answer #9 · answered by Frankie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love them truly, you'd love them for who they are not what they look like. The girl will have kids and get fat (maybe) and start looking like her mother and all the things that psychologically you'll think about will be wrong.
If you don't love her for who she is instead of what she is... then I suggest that you don't get married... because you will end up as one of the divorce stats....
2006-12-04 19:25:50 · answer #10 · answered by pro_steering_wheel_holder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋