everyday with her bf and sometime 3 times a day when she was about 19 - 22 now she wit me and she 32 and she no way as sexual actually we havnt done it yet, she says thats cos it was then and her attitudes have changed should i worry cos i just wanna be like a rabbit with her cos i love and lust after her
2006-12-04 18:29:39 · 20 answers · asked by johnny 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe her when she says its different now that she's older. And you have to understand and accept that. However, you can still be a rabbit to her if you could just make an effort to be more romantic and open to her.
2006-12-04 18:33:36 · answer #1 · answered by shexy 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You only have her word about what she used to do when she was 19-22. She MAY have been doing it three times a day, but it seems to me WHY is she telling you this when she is refusing to have sex with you? Its not really relevant and it has made you jealous.
If you treat her right and she still doesnt want to have sex with you, i would move on. If a 32 year old woman doesnt want to have sex you can be sure that if you marry her and settle down with her she will want even less sex! So thats even less than none!
Maybe when she was being so free with it in the past she wasnt really enjoying it or something. Or maybe she just doesnt click with you. Or if her attitudes HAVE changed, can you live with them? Think seriously before committing yourself if you have a sexual nature and she hasnt.
2006-12-05 02:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do tend to change as they get older. Just because she did it 2-3 times a day when she was 22 does not mean she feels the same way 10 years on.
You make her sound more like a robot than a women. Have you thought this is what could be putting her off?
Romance her and treat her like a lady.
2006-12-05 02:36:14 · answer #3 · answered by richard_beckham2001 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At the age of eighteen the hormones are kicking in very strongly and the urge for sexual activity is very powerful. At thirty-two things have calmed down somewhat.
You do not say how long you have been together. Perhaps she is waiting to see if your relationship is likely to last. Many women prefer to be loved for their intrinsic qualities rather than for their body. Perhaps the fact that you are so obviously lusting for her body puts her off. Be patient and try tenderness rather than cavern man tactics.You can also try reverse psychology, namely if you stop badgering her for sex, she will think you are losing interest and might be more forthcoming.
2006-12-05 03:46:55 · answer #4 · answered by WISE OWL 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're obviously an adult. Why do you care about her sexual relationship with some other man over 10 years ago? Why would THAT even come up in your relationship? Anyway, yes, some women do have a major change in sex drive. It happens, and if you really love her you'll drop her past and figure out a way to make it work between the TWO of you.
2006-12-05 02:34:22 · answer #5 · answered by munkees81 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try putting your 'deep' held feelings of Love for her ahead of your lusts.
If you want to just be the rabbit and have hours of endless meaningless sex, then fine. Say so. But don't lie by adding the words 'Love' (as in genuine and meaningful Caring for another) to your game-plan.
My hope is that one day some day some one will treat you in the same way as you are actually treating her.
Then, only then, might you likely understand and feel it for what it really is.
Sash.
2006-12-05 07:12:07 · answer #6 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, this happens! Not all women are like this, but I have noticed that if she has a lot going on, stress, work, kids etc. the appetite for sex disappears. Patience if you truly feel the way you say. Things could very easily change. Try to help her with anything that is bothering her. Women truly do like a guy that cares and shows compassion and affection! Good Luck !
2006-12-05 02:33:51 · answer #7 · answered by Silver Surfer 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
check with the pharmacists, there are several different pills that actually can enhance the sex drive in women. they arent expensive at all so u better try them out. She mite have had an unpleasent past or it mite just be totally natural that her body isnt producing harmons as much as it should, so consulting and medication will definetly work for you. tc
2006-12-05 03:34:11 · answer #8 · answered by billy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her drunk and f*ck her. Or be romantic w/ her. The drunk thing works better though. Use the shame to make her sleep with you again and once she gets used to it she's do it to her when ever you can make her feel emotionally comprimised.
Is the the nice way to do things? No, and it's not moral either. But it will work. Also she may be ashamed cuz she has genetal warts or herpese or something gross. Better get a blood test. Or just dump her and move on come 2 think of it.
2006-12-05 02:34:07 · answer #9 · answered by evilive 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
u are the lucky guy, 3 times a day............. plz don't dump her if she has less passion than before, 32 years old is not easy to found a new one, u couldn't start over, but she can't, plz with her till forever.
it's not all about the sex, people need real love...............
2006-12-05 03:35:39 · answer #10 · answered by cecilia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋