At the time I was 18, he was 27. He had done this about 2 or 3 times.But the one time we were in bed talking about sex,he reached near the under the bed&pulled out a metal pipe&put it on my neck, I lay there&was laughing but I saw in his eyes he was kinda getting off on this. Then I pretend it was nothing &starting play fighting him back. He also used his hand&a belt, once.
One time we were arguing&I wen&lay on the couch&he came in the room&lay on top of me caressing my body as if were about to get intimate but using a voilent touch&then he starting saying in a calm voice 'I'm sorry, but u are so disobedient, I'm ur everything u can't talk back to me.I'm your alpha,omega,ur begining ur end,do u love me then u gotta do what I say if u want this to work'
I still love him today but cuz of his violent money driven lifestyle he was murdered last year,by a guy he was fighting with I never told anyone this but I wanna reach out now, it still bothers me, wondering what he would have done
2006-12-04 18:20:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No he was murdered last year, so we obviously arent together even though I still love him, besides that he was a great guy. Everything from opening doors for me to paying for my first year of college.He was a great guy besides these little stunts he tried to pull
2006-12-04 18:25:46 · update #1
whats the question your asking?
2006-12-04 18:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW - well one thing is for sure - that's not real love. You haven't experienced love the way a man should love you. You deserve so much better than this. There is so much more for you out there. I'd really recommend that you meet with someone who can really take the time to listen to everything in counseling. It will really help you sort things out and make better choices of boyfriends in the future. Usually, if you connect with a church - they will have female counselors who can connect with you. That would be my suggestion.
2006-12-04 18:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He was a sociopath and he would have eventually beat you to a pulp or killed you. Have you ever read any books by Ann Rule? They are true crime books and this guy fits the bill of some of this nations most violent serial killers. Forget loving him...What is that about?? Love YOU...and feel lucky your alive. And read some Ann Rule. Really.
2006-12-04 18:27:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What i feel is that he need medical attention. There nothing wrong with him but he need councelling from the doctor. he was to aggressive and violent. What you should do now is to start a new life and make sure not making the same mistake again. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 18:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by hafidz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you might be full of sh$%. If you're not lying then your "question" makes no sense. He was an abuser of you and others he sold drugs to. The world is BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM. He gives illegal immigrants (95% of which arre good,honest people) a bad name. If yo udisagree with me respond to me.
2006-12-04 18:36:03 · answer #5 · answered by thank you come again 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is that he sounded very controlling and abusive. I sugest that you get some counselling from a therepist that has experience with this type of abuse. Also dispite his abuse you admit you still love him so you will be greiving for him so getting a good therepist will help you work out your feelings and maybe avoid other abusive and negative people in your life. Thanks for sharing and please get some counselling. God bless
2006-12-04 18:27:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont understand. so he died? sounds like he had some issues, and was attracted to violence, got into trouble becuase of it and got killed.
this is not healthy for him to have treated you like this, dont tell yourself it was ok. it wasnt ok, and never be with a guy thats like that again. im sure you had feelings for him, but he had serious issues and could have really hurt you..you could have been the one that ended up dead if he hadnt. we all suffer when we lose a loved one, but realize that its part of life, and you should move on and learn from this. getting involved with people that have this sort of issues manifesting in violence can only lead to pain for you.
2006-12-04 18:26:19 · answer #7 · answered by EllisFan 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Girl i feel for you.
Theres not much to say or to think what you must have went through but i wish you can get over this and find luck and happiness again
2006-12-04 18:26:01 · answer #8 · answered by Candy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry for your loss, it's always hard when you lose someone you loved. I believe people are destined to die when they die , but acts of true sharing save's from death. I don't know what to say about his abuse lol if you love him than maybe abuse wasn't that serious.
2006-12-04 18:29:32 · answer #9 · answered by Tellie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are people who get sexually excited by this type of behaviour and sometimes it can get out of control and end up with someone dead.
If you are not dealing with this may I suggest counselling.
Peace and happiness to you
2006-12-04 18:24:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you have some issues and it sounds like you are still upset by thoughts of what happened. You should seek some counseling and let someone outside the situation know what happened. And please be careful in your future relationships!
2006-12-04 18:24:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋