Which is better.?

Question

I am a male in his mid 20's and I would like to know which is better Just having sex for the first time with no one special. Or wait until you find someone special to have sex with. Because I asked a similar question and most off the answers I got back was don't wait till you meet someone special. Is that how people really feel.

Answer 1

- Just for experience, you can do it with a hoar, but don't hurt any girl's feeling just for your own satisfaction, except if the girl is looking for that.

Answer 2

How you choose to answer this will define you as a person. I'm guessing you will wait a while longer or you wouldn't be asking now. Sex with someone special becomes something completely different in any case - you get the chance to explore things you would never contemplate in casual sex, and the reactions are markedly different once emotions come into play. In other cultures an older woman would initiate a young man for his first time, but I'm guessing that's not an option here.

Answer 3

I'd say sleep with someone that you are really attracted too, but that person doesn't have to be the one you're going to spend the rest of your life with! if you are looking for someone perfect it'll become an obsession in the end i think.
I worked with an Egyption guy that was waiting for the perfect woman to lose his virginity to, sounded sweet at first until i found out he was 30 years old! He admitted one day that it was all he thought about, all day long. Even walking down the street he was searching for potentials!
It would be good to have a bit of experience behind you for when you meet the special person, otherwise (if it's the girl you're gonna marry or something) you could end up resenting the fact that you haven't tried anything else, the grass is always greener on the other side - but only if you've never tasted it!

Answer 4

I think it is commendable to wait until you find someone special, however in this day and age people don't have the morals they used to and you would find it hard to meet someone of similar values as you

I think that people meant you shouldn't wait for something that more than likely will not happen

If you like someone just go for it and if it works out then you are lucky but don't put your life on hold just enjoy yourself

You only get one chance in life so why not live it to the full

I wish you good luck with what ever you decide to do

Answer 5

My personal experience is to wait until you meet the right person. Yes, there is a lot of hang-ups about wanting to lose your virginity as soon as you possibly can, but I did not give into that peer-pressure (actually, I was lucky with the friends that I hung around with).

I didn't lose my virginity until I was 18, which some people thought was shocking, but because it was with someone who I was attracted to, cared about and was quite frankly in love with, the experience was much better than I ever imagined it would be. Because we were into each other, we were both calm that first time and didn't rush through it - thinking that it was a race!
Because we were able to remove that pressure, I was able to actually enjoy it.

I have had one-night stands and always regretted it because nothing beats the sex that you have with someone you care for.

A friend of mine was in his 30s when he slept with someone for the first time and he does not regret / miss not having it up until that point - now that he's found his ideal partner, he's making up for lost time now!! ;-)

Answer 6

I wish I had waited for that special person rather than just having sex with someone to be like all my mates. Biggest regret of my life

Answer 7

why not "make it special" with someone you like. True love hopefully will come your way but sex is best when lust and possitive emotions are envolved. Make her feel happy and you can feel happy. Honestly guy or not, sex is an emotional connection too. It depends on how you feel about how you want to feel. I mean a $50 call girl can do the trick but what is the point. Sex can be a real connection with an other person, why treat it like sh*t?

Answer 8

Why don't you ask out for a date the girls that you like the look of and wait till having sex is a natural progression?
By that, I mean that you keep on seeing the girl you like and get gradually more intimate with her.
Don't look for a "special" girl as life isn't like that!
Just be realistic and look for someone you get on with and enjoy their company.

Answer 9

Personally, I think having your first experience of sex with someone who matters has to be far superior to the alternative. As long as you realise that it's unlikely to be great the first time as you're going to be nervous, but with someone you love, it's something you've had with them that can never ever be had again with anyone else. I think too many people are pressurised into the whole "I'm really sexy, I have lots of random sex" thing that the media foists upon you - I know so many people (mainly girls) who had their first sexual encounter because they were either pressurised into it, or just felt that they should or they'd look stupid - and how sad is that?

Answer 10

if you wait to meet someone special,you will find that it's the best thing ever,do it before then and it wont feel good whatsoever it makes you feel dirty! so wait for that special person in your life.

Answer 11

Wait for that special person to come along, you will get far more enjoyment within a loving relationship, than a one night stand.