how to discipline a 10yrs who dont listen and argues back?

Question

child hits back when told what to do,and bullys her 12yrs sister

Answer 1

Perhaps there's something on her mind that is bothering her... talk it out, she may be harboring some bad feelings. Maybe this is something she's doing for attention. At ten years old, she may think the only way to make herself known is to lash out. Open yourself up to her, and let her know that you are always listening when she needs to talk. If she doesn't want to talk to you, maybe there's someone else who's close, like an aunt, or grandma, a neighbor or even your minister (if you go to church). Sounds to me like she's bottling her feelings....which isn't too unusual at this age. Think of it from her perspective....all her life she's been told what to do, when to do it, and how to do it.....now she feels trapped and pressured (and fighting back with an older sibling is a sure sign that she's jealous of some type of freedom that they have and she doesn't). Everything is changing for her now...she's expected to act like an adult while still being treated like a child.Just remember, you can still be in charge without losing that bond you have with her, and set clear boundaries. And, if you warn her that her actions have consequences ALWAYS FOLLOW THROUGH and never loose your cool...as soon as you start yelling and fighting back, she'll give it back to you ten fold. If you tell her if she misbehaves that she will be grounded, don't go back on your word. Stand your ground... be the adult she's going to look up to and admire, rather than the parent who's always cramping her style.

Answer 2

Wow, that kid would really be missing all of his or her stuff. I would start talking their stuff away, one at a time, until they don't have a thing to their name. If they want their stuff back, they have to earn it. You have to be consistent, and strict, don't let anything slide. If you ask for something done, it had better be done, or bye bye PlayStation privileges. You are the boss. You are the leader. You need to get a grip on this now or it will only get worse...

Answer 3

nip it in the bud now!!! i strongly suggest you sit her down and explain that hitting does not solve the problem. and explain what the consequenses will be ex take tv videos
out of her room and anything else that is meaninful to her and tell her she can earn one back if she does not hit for 1 week and so forth then if she starts hitting again back to plan a. if all else fails maybe going to a child psycholgist.

Answer 4

She is 10, not to old for a SPANKING - Not just a swat or spank -
If you don't make is a bad experience don't bother doing them. I would say make sure to pull down pants and panties, place them over your laps, and give them at least a dozen or more good sharp stinging spanks to the bottom. It's OK for children to be crying hard after a good spanking, that's the way it's suppose to be.
If she fights to much for you to spank her, have her dad do it.

Answer 5

You obviously need to put your foot down he sounds like a brat. You need to do what you have to do put him in timeout, take privlages away as well as games toys until it sinks in. But when you say you are going to take somehing you need to do it you can't give chances. He needs to know who the adult is and when he talks back do the same because he is going to soon take over you and you will have no control

Answer 6

Yes, i agree with the 1st answer. I have read 1-2-3 Magic and it worked!

Answer 7

that's child needs serious discipline. try calling nanny 911 or simply setting rules and enforcing them. also try spending a little more time with her she might be jealous of the older child and acting out.

Answer 8

Figure out what is most important to her and take it away when she misbehaves. Ground her from friends, Tv etc. My daughter hates it when she cannot watch tv and has to stay in her room. Its the only punishment for her that works.

Answer 9

sounds like you need Bernnie Mack get a bat lol time out after time out take away everything fun no snacks no outside stand in a corner and hold hands out then stand on 1 leg with arms stretched out gl

Answer 10

You need to check out this awesome guy Dr. Phelan he wrote a book called 1,2,3 Magic - he's got so many great tips and excellent advice that really works for all ages of kids. Really, check this out!!! You're not alone - remember they are wild animals - and you're the wild animal TRAINER!!!