Over 20 yrs ago we met when my wife left me , We dated for over six month,s 2 years ago i called her to have a cup fo coffee togather she said yes. ti was love at first sight all over again? She asked me to move in 6 month,s later ?every thing was so so good? then for the last several month,s something was rong? then she finaly addimitted she was cheating on me? he was 24 yrs younger then her and live,s across the street from her ....any how ????????
SHE SAYS SHE LOVES ME ? I KNOW I LOVE HER SO MUCH? SHOULD I ? I ALL READY MOVED OUT.
2006-12-04 17:11:42 · 10 answers · asked by zanderzone55 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Let me guess all the songs on the radio are breaking Your heart, again. It is really hard to make a rational decision with Your feelings cluttering up Your thoughts. Actually You know this situation better than we do. I don't know how long You were together, or if You were having problems, but whatever the facts are, it doesn't excuse the act of cheating. Sounds like You would have to go to some counseling, to help You through this. Dr. Phil is good. That would let You know how true She is about being with You. Did She tell You why? If You are hurt now, could You stand getting back together and getting hurt again?
O.K. Dr. Phil says that the Person being cheated on should be allowed to discuss their feelings about this deed, until they completely feel like they have been heard, and their feelings acknowledged. He also says that after that has been worked through, to not forgive and stop bringing up the issue, and beating the other person over the head with it is like going on a vacation and having to sit backwards in the vehicle, never being allowed to see where You are going, but only where You have been.
Is it worth all of the work? Only You can answer that.
God Bless, and Best Wishes for a Happy Life...
2006-12-04 17:32:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all if she loved you like she says she does she would not have cheated on you in the first place. Yes people do make mistakes, but she did not just cheat on you once, she was cheating on you over time so she knew what she was doing. I am so sorry. I know exactly how you feel. But she is not worth you loving her like that. I mean she did it for several months. If you go back with her you will not be able to trust her ever again even is she will try to change. And how long till she cheats again??? With situations like this you have to be really carefull. But in my opinion something went wrong between them two, and that's y she realized how good she had it with u, but eventually ther will be someone else in the picture again. You already moved out, don't give in, I know its hard but its for the better.
2006-12-05 01:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by jizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to say this but from a woman's prospective, you need to leave her. She has been rotten to you and you deserve SO MUCH BETTER! She made the mistake. You sound like a wonderful man and she doesn't know what she had; Your love and sensitivity to her needs. She won't find that with who she had an affair with, so when she's done having her fun with sex, she'll want you back. But don't take her back. She blew her chance. What comes around, goes around.
Take care, and find someone who will appreciate you.
2006-12-05 01:18:40 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does it feel like she loves you? If you love someone, you don't go behind thier back and sleep with someone else. Thats not love.
If you already moved out, I would leave it at that. Its for the best, you never know if she may do it again.
But if you think you may be able to trust her again, she should go to counsling to talk about this.
I hope it all works out.
2006-12-05 01:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Barb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my ex stayed with me for eight years even after i cheated i loved him with all my heart but i was board im only 25 i didnt know the meaning of seattling down but about a year ago he left me and i realized how much i loved him give her another chance but let her know if she does it again your gone for good
2006-12-05 13:20:40 · answer #5 · answered by jmjcds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With all the diseases out there this kind of behavior is risky. If it were me I'd stay moved out and see how it works out, you will have to find out what it was that was wrong. Good luck to ya!
2006-12-05 01:23:18 · answer #6 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She wants the best of both worlds. If you want to get used then get back with her, but if you don't, then find a real woman to be with.
2006-12-05 01:16:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anytime someone is cheating on you, they don't really love you.
2006-12-05 01:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by ( Kelly ) 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just take her for what she is, an aesy piece, whey take everything so seriouys
2006-12-05 01:22:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch the b*tch already...
2006-12-05 01:13:41 · answer #10 · answered by ^ross^ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋