say you're in a really good relationship. you're both real happy being around each other. you're in your 20's(boy 22, girl 24) and you've got a lot in common and are good for each other, balance each other out and such. You know you'll continue to be happy with each other but you're wondering if you two should move in together. You don't want to complicate things but you've been together long enough that you feel you should take another step getting close towards marriage.Is it better to not live together and then move in together after you're married. how should this work out so everyone stays happy?
2006-12-04 17:10:51 · 7 answers · asked by dabluschmosprincess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Research shows the opposite of what people think:
People who are virgins when they marry have a very low divorce rate.
People who engage in sex prior to marriage have a high divorce rate.
People who lived together before marriage have the HIGHEST divorce rate!
That's what the stats tell us about sexual practices and divorce.
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-04 17:14:15 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes I hate statistics. I have lived with my fiance for over five years and we have recently decided to get married. I was pretty young when we first got together and I am glad that we waited to get married. It is a good test for a relationship to live together first I think because it is WAY different than just dating. It was a chance for us to decide if we could stand eachother for the rest of our lives. I cannot even picture a life with anyone else. It is all up to you and your significant other and your beliefs.
2006-12-05 01:23:33 · answer #2 · answered by joda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a hard one cause living together you are still trying to please each other but you know and he knows you can walk out any time cause of no ring or legal reasons to stay but once you are married people tend to quit trying and take each other for granted and then it does hit you full force in the face that all those cute things are not so cute any more depends a lot on the couples maturity levels as well
2006-12-05 01:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by THERESA W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Th next step is not moving in together, it is engagement. Then Marraige, then living together. The divorce rate in this country is 50%. What do you think that the separation rate for shak ups are? I lived in one, and I think that it was the worst thing that I ever did, and I never did get the proposal for marraige that I was hoping for, untill I kicked his butt out. Respect yourself, and don't give the milk away for free, no one is going to want to buy the cow.
2006-12-05 01:15:37 · answer #4 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said anything about sex in your question so we'll skip that.
I've had a partner in life for 15 years........we've always lived together. You have to prepare yourself for changes in routine and be mature enough to accept living with another person. There will always be comprimise, from both parties somewhere over time. Living together before marriage can open your eyes to other things you normally would'nt see about your partner....good and bad. It's one of those life lessons that really confirms if your meant to be togther.
2006-12-05 01:31:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
if after 2 years of living together you still dont fight over the toothpaste, youl \'ll probably make it
2006-12-05 01:29:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you could argue for both ways but i think its better to test the waters first....
2006-12-05 01:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by sdbrian92108 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋