If you thought your bf/gf had a mental illness that wasn't being treated (or was being ignored altogether), how would you convey your concern and suggest they get help? I care A LOT about this girl, we've dated for some time now, but, looking back, I have always known there was something odd about the way we relate to each other. I think I know what is REALLY going on (though she hasn't told me). I do respect her privacy, but I also care for her a lot, so I am torn about what to do. Half of me says to let her come to her own conclusions while the other half instinctively knows she will just continue to blame herself for the disintegration of our relationship b/c of this potential condition and, therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs. What would you do? We are supposed to get together today.
2006-12-04 17:09:23 · 6 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs...
If you truly care about her this is your answer.
2006-12-04 17:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Mandi_Moo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, if you are serious and want to be with her in a partnership,,,ya gotta tell her and let her know that you wanna do what ever it takes to enjoy the partnership. partners take care of each other and benefit from the union. both partners have to be healthy and, and therefore, happy. do you want a disintegration of the relationship with out feeling guilty? is this the real issue for you? i don't know...only you do. be honest with yourself first, and then you can make a decision about helping your partner with her "issue".
2006-12-05 01:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by david b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to explain things gently. It wouldn't be a bad idea to have a close family member of hers to be there also as long as they agree with you.
2006-12-05 01:14:02 · answer #3 · answered by lovey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are very vague, maybe its you that needs to see a shrink
2006-12-05 01:44:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its true love, nothing can stop it.
2006-12-05 01:19:11 · answer #5 · answered by Yuri Ebihara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whatever you do,NEVER,NEVER,EVER, refer to her illness her problem or any type of problem at that.
2006-12-05 01:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by omaN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋