have very rigid parents. Their dad is a big time lawyer, there mom is a nurse/stay at home mom. They are the types of parents who think their children need all the best of everything. They buy $200 jeans for their 2 yr old. These girls have EVERYTHING. They even each have their own toy rooms separate from their bedrooms. They do not need toys. I cannot afford 400 dollars for each girl to have an outfit. Yes that is truely what their parents spend. They have this intimidating personalities. Its almost eerie for me to walk into their house. Not that I am poor but I am a nursing student paying my own way through college so money is tight of course. I have thought about books but their grandmother (who I am close to) says there mom is too picky and only allows certain kinds. I am totally at a loss.
Their girls just seem like something out of a primp and proper movie. They are in total control by their parents in every senses of the word.
Someone PLEASE help.
2006-12-04 16:56:35 · 11 answers · asked by Summer H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Not to be picky but we moved here when my son was 3 months old. This is our 3rd Christmas with them. Every year we spend about 30-40 dollars on each girl. But last year they gave my son a flashlight that was 6 dollars (I know because I bought one for a stocking stuffer). Just seems a bit off that spend well over 100 on them and my son gets cheaped out. But my son gets lots from us to make up for it. But he is growing to the age where things are said from him and I dont want him to think its ok to be stingy. I am a bit worried he might say something soon. It is very obvious. My mother in law and their grandmother get offended by it and give my son extra gifts to try to make up for it.
2006-12-04 17:05:41 · update #1
I have thought about the donation to someone or some organization in their name but I am not sure. I asked their grandmother (my husband's aunt) what she thought because their mother is her daughter (mind you not the person her parents raised her to be) and she said she would fear that next year they would refuse to have us for Christmas because it is always at their house. That would break my son's heart because he loves to see all my husband's cousins (one is a firefighter who he oozes love for). I guess more than anything I don't want them to make my son feel excluded. I thought about giving them a gift certificate to build-a-bear. Their mom is not hip with stuffed animals - she thinks they make children immature. But I am tempted to buy them in hopes their grandmother will take them and let them be a kid just for a little bit at least, ot keep them at their grandmothers house. She is at least allowed visits with them when their mom is scheduled to work (which is rare).
2006-12-04 17:51:13 · update #2
How about personalized books? Kids love to hear/read their name in the story. Go to this website http://www.tlc-expressions.com They have lots of cute titles like Ballerina Princess, Little Mermaid, Beauty & the Beast, Sesame Street, Mother Goose, Three Little Pigs, Scooby-Doo, Looney Tunes and so many more! My kids love the books I got for them. Check it out, and good luck!
2006-12-05 02:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Little*Boots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IS this family to you? If not I would not worry so much about what to get them I agree with making a donation in thier name to a organization that helps out the less fortnuate or adopting a kid or take them to a place where they can volunteer. (sounds like the parents could use it as well). My son gets almost all of his clothes and toys from the goodwill store because Im a single mom trying to make ends meet while I am attending school. I even tell my parents to get his presents from there because I want my son to understand that not everything is monetary its the thoughts that count. Hope this helps and makes sense I am at work and its late.
2006-12-04 17:45:08 · answer #2 · answered by kort 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like the idea of a gift certificate to somewhere where they can be kids. Chuck E. Cheese, the zoo, aquarium, an indoor rec center, etc. I don't know what kind of places you have locally but just somewhere fun their grandma can take them if their mom won't. I wouldn't do Build a Bear if you think their mom would object to the stuffed animals. Another idea would be some kind of craft kits so they have something they can make. Or you could make them something like wall hangings with their names. Something homemade is always more personal.
I also wouldn't worry about them reciprocating the gifts. Give gifts because you want to, not because you have to, and spend as much as you want not less because they spend less on you. The idea of gifts being worth equal value is weird to me. It doesn't matter.
2006-12-05 02:08:35 · answer #3 · answered by AerynneC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was neverr one who followed the parents wishes when buying gifts for children, I believe the giver should select the gift and the recepient should be greatful. But in your situation I would buy the girls inexpensive charm bracelets, then you always have a gift to buy in the future, new charms. Other oprions include collectable porcelin dolls, I went to far one year with a stubborn relative who has very spoiled ungrateful little ones. I took the amout I had planned on spending and bought a TON of toys and donated them to a local Womans shelter. I would rather see my hard earned dollars got to a cause where they will be appreciated. Good luck.
2006-12-05 02:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by skylark455st2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how about a gift certificate to something like the movie theater or an indoor playground? Or Chuck E Cheese, the zoo.... something that would be more like an activity since they don't need any more things lying around the house.
2006-12-04 18:23:13 · answer #5 · answered by Elaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 1st post make a donation in their names. They allready have everything, they could help kids who do with out. Or let them "adopt" a kid for christmas in their age group and let them do the shopping for that kid picking out the things they will give to the other kids (I hopr that makes sense, it is late and I am tired)
2006-12-04 17:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you just buy each of them a simple giftcard they will be just fine they are still simple young ladies who need the basic us down to earth poor people enjoy
blockbuster they can each pick a movie
kmart toy
walmart toy
target toy
anything buy them a puzzle to put together. just remember it is the thought that counts.
2006-12-04 17:06:23 · answer #7 · answered by just lil ol' me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They may be a little young now, but for later I suggest you consider
The International Star Registry.
http://www.starregistry.com/index.cfm
Name a star after them. It's a little pricey, at $54 per star, but it's permanent and at a couple billion light years, they can't break it.
2006-12-04 17:07:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mustapha Mond 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get them anythink... they've got to much already...$200 jeans on a 2 year old? I dont even get whole outfits worth $100 and im 17...
2006-12-04 17:05:45 · answer #9 · answered by Yahmina 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need help on 2 fronts, but I can at least suggest http://www.surprise.com/ for creative gift ideas for people of all ages.
2006-12-04 17:11:33 · answer #10 · answered by Seth T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋