i thought im in love coz, i use to miss him badly cant even wanna go out without him.cant even eat.cant even sleep it seem i fell like to hang myselfe coz i miss him so much i want to be with him always etc.but when i though of marrying and thinks about for the future i dont want him to be mind dont like it . humm...coz he is doing nothink younger then me and also he is not that rich because of that i dont want him for the future but i love him at the moment presently cant live without him /.help me out.
2006-12-04 16:52:01 · 14 answers · asked by babygirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hi there,
When we claim that it's love that we have for someone, are we correct? Something to ponder upon.....
Tell me dear Are your palms sweaty, is your heart racing and is your voice caught within your chest? It isn't love, it's like.
You can't keep your eyes or hands off of them, am I right? It isn't love, it's lust.
Are you proud, and eager to show them off? It isn't love, it's luck. Do you want them because you know they're there? It isn't love, it's loneliness.
Are you there because it's what everyone wants? It isn't love, it's loyalty.
Are you there because they kissed you, or held your hand? It isn't love, it's low confidence.
Do you stay for their confessions of love, because you don't want to hurt them? It isn't love, it's pity.
Do you belong to them because their sight makes your heart skip a beat? It isn't love, it's infatuation.
Do you pardon their faults because you care about them? It isn't love, it's friendship.
Do you tell them every day they are the only one you think of? It isn't love, it's a lie.
Are you willing to give all of your favourite things for their sake? It isn't love, it's charity.
but ............
Does your heart ache and break when they're sad? Then it's love.
Do you cry for their pain, even when they're strong? Then it's love. Do their eyes see your true heart, and touch your soul so deeply it hurts? Then it's love.
Do you stay because a blinding, incomprehensible mix of pain and relation pulls you close and holds you there? Then it's love.
Do you accept their faults because they're a part of who they are? Then it's love.
Are you attracted to others, but stay with them faithfully without regret? Then it's love.
Would you allow them to leave you, not because they want to but because they have to? Then its love.
Would you give them your heart, your life, your death? Then it's love.
So if all these feelings are there in you for someone than its love.
Good Luck & God Bless
2006-12-04 20:33:38 · answer #1 · answered by Blueberry 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dont mess the things.If you love anybody there is no question whether and what is going to happen.Every question vanishes when love is there.Anyhow if you are planning something dont say is love. No site for plans in love.Either you love or plan. This unknown quest to be togather may be due to newly aroused bodily rquirements. Marriage is a social agreement to validiate sexual relations. Marriage and love are two different banks of the river which never meets. 100 % of the married couple are never found in love. They are always acting like best enimies. Dont percieve anything from historical frammed social traditions of living a life.
Ask a question to yourself ..... why sufferings in the marriaged based societies ? Is every one happy ? If not then the system f ailed.
Marriage is a compulsion ...love is a freedom. Love continue.......even ....after deaths.........No need of presence.....True love cherishes in seperation while bodily presence envisages other bodily requirements also , though bodily relations are not to be supressed if you are really in love. But these sexual relations are bye-products and not LOVE.
2006-12-05 01:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confusion confounded! Seems like you want to eat your cake and have it too. I got news for you Honey, it does not happen that way. How would you like if a guy who loves you makes it clear to you that he has plans to marry another girl? Someone richer, well settled etc., etc. Honey, this is exactly the message you have unwittingly given him, perhaps that is the reason he has left you. You have just two options. Love him to death. Support him where you find him lacking, motivate him, encourage him, do whatever it takes. Walk hand-in-hand with him down the road of love taking the good with the bad. Or get him out of your system completely, if there is an injured ego, cut it out. Get back to doing all the lovely things you enjoyed before him. Make new friends, but don’t go looking for a replacement. Love will find you (It is Gifted by God) don’t go looking for it.
2006-12-05 02:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by the Tramp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, you're confused. First and foremost ask yourself if you're comfortable with this relationship. If yes, your next step is to find out if you'll spend the rest of your life with him. If this is no then you may need to re-think your feeling for this person. Perhaps it was infatuation that brought you two together. Do remember that people do change so its only normal if you're feeling uneasy with this guy.
2006-12-05 00:56:20 · answer #4 · answered by SingGirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, such feelings arise at a particular stage of life, say, wen we r in 8th to F.Y. of college (approx., from 12 to 19years) so as the time goes, we ourself understnd very well.
2006-12-05 02:32:55 · answer #5 · answered by itsfahadbaba 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lets just say u r in love.So try to figure out its meaning in your personal terms.
As for marriage, consult with your inutitive and open mind and focus on all aspects rather than just the money part.
2006-12-05 00:56:20 · answer #6 · answered by WELL R.S. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right now in heat of infatuation and not Love. Even with all those depressing and heart-wrenching feelings, remember that they will fade eventually.
2006-12-05 01:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! I remember those feelings! They are so intense that you think it must be "love". But, as you already said, if you can't see yourself spending the rest of your life with him, then it's just not "love". There is nothing wrong with "Mr. Right-now", just realize that he's not "Mr. Right".
2006-12-05 00:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by LAURA K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't sound like love to me, it sounds like you are dependant on this person. i once had a boyfriend who was the same way w/me. he couldn't accept the fact that it was over and i was seeing other people. he called an emergency counciling line found in the phone book and they told him he was dependant on me and gave him a phone # to call for additional help.
2006-12-05 00:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by layajean 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just infatuation, u will hve 2 get over it,
for tht u start doin smethin which interests u, like hobbies
meet frnds, join club u ll surely pass over d crush
2006-12-05 03:37:30 · answer #10 · answered by Muskaan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋