I've known this guy for many yrs. We grew up together. We've always liked each other, but never pursued anything. Well, he got married a few yrs. ago, and since then he hasn't been happy. We saw each other again in 04/05 and we've been talking every since. It's not like a daily thing, just occasionally until a few weeks ago. Now we talk every day, and we have true feeling for one another. I know it's wrong, but I love him. Always have. He's filing for divorce and he wants to marry me. What should I do? I know if he's doing it to her, he could do the same thing to me. Is that a chance I should be willing to take? What would you do?
2006-12-04 16:35:13 · 12 answers · asked by Nille 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The only reason he married her was because she was pregnant. He never loved her, he just wanted to do right by his child.
2006-12-04 16:41:01 · update #1
Take it slow, you know him from growing up, but you never dated. Get to know each other beyond friends and take it from there. Don't just jump into looking at marriage.
2006-12-04 16:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by -J 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first of all so far what i got out of it is u all are just talking. there is nothing wrong with talking to someone from the opposite sex. he ask u to marry him well for starters i would hold off on that part for awhile. by all means u all just started talking again. u have to make sure he really is getting a divorce. I seen that u said he never really loved her. well on that part that's what he is telling u. as for he could do it to u if u all would get together. thats not true if u would keep him happy he would not go else where. ur the only one can decide what u want to do. just one more then he aint cheating on his wife if he's just talking to u. talking aint cheating. and u dont know until u try it becuz u will never know!
2006-12-04 16:58:27 · answer #2 · answered by wishstar28 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two may have been ment for each other from the start. You said it yourself, he isn't happy with her, and you two have been talking with each other since you started back talking, also he's trying to get divorced to marry you. My advice is if he does get away from being married and still says he wants to get with you, means that you may have gotten lucky, and he really cares about you, because most men would have just told you that they were getting divorced while keeping the wife and geting the girl. I see love in your future if you and he does the right things.
2006-12-04 16:47:00 · answer #3 · answered by Jerome E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like he's divorcing her because of you. Sounds like they already had problems right? Date him. Take it slow and get to know eachother as a couple. Don't rush into marriage. Let him get over the divorce thing. You'll also have a bit to deal with since he has a kid with her. Take time to iron out any problems there might be in that area before you think of marriage.
Good luck
2006-12-04 16:57:16 · answer #4 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I read a story exactly like this once. I won't tell you the end cuz you'll cry but ANYWAYS lol...umm well let's see...he's doing this for you. Usually i would say 'don't trust him' because of course he's cheating on his wife, basically, but it souds like you're his exception. think of how long you've known him and how well you know one another. think of how much he must love you after all these years bottling everything up and marrying another woman. that's hard. and i would've done the same thing. take that chance.
it seems like he's taken a bigger risk already =)
2006-12-04 16:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by sweettreasures9 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he realizes he's made a terrible mistake and knows he should have been with you. But you just can't jump back and forth. Marriage takes alot of work, also. You'll have your good times and bad. And you can't always walk away when you have the bad.
2006-12-04 16:38:33 · answer #6 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he's divorced to make sure it's just not a game he's playing. If he cheats on his wife now, what makes you think he won't cheat on you. He married this girl cause he loved her too once.
2006-12-04 16:39:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
at least he is doing it proper and ending that b4 starting anything w/ u but its a gamble he could find yet another later but he may be true to you for the rest of his days follow your heart and if you want to or need to, do so
2006-12-04 16:45:59 · answer #8 · answered by groovergabe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why did he marry her?
if we've known one another forever i probably would marry him, but i would have to know the reason hes leaving his wife first. if its nothing she did....NO
2006-12-04 16:40:22 · answer #9 · answered by tasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if you really love each other than go for it. you'v know each other all your life, take a chance.
2006-12-04 16:40:32 · answer #10 · answered by summergirl_644 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋