1. current bf- weve been together for 2 months and were in love but he doesnt trust me or treat me very well ...
2. guy who i dated before summer who treatted me so well but his best freind broke us up saying things that werent true and now they are not friends anymore and he knows the truth now but he says it cant just go back magically.
what should i do!!!!???
2006-12-04 16:27:37 · 7 answers · asked by nrcl1987 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
- First of all, I would say to forget the first one. ignore him totally.
For the second, go to him and have sincere discussion.
2006-12-08 16:00:08 · answer #1 · answered by Z O R R O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Love cannot exist without trust. You can have lust without trust. Is this what you want? A guy that doesn't treat you very well by your own definition?
2. This guy isn't friends with his "best friend" anymore, and you broke up because of the former best friend saying untrue things. He was nice to you but can't pick good best friends and is a little unsure about getting with you again.
What makes you think that you have to bee with somebody right now and that it has to be one of these two guys?
Can you be alone and meet friends and pick from a bigger pool of guys? Can you be alone with yourself? Or do you feel more comfortable having people around and especially a boyfriend?
I suggest you find a way to find who you are and what your wants and needs are, make a decision as to what you are looking for in a partner (I'm talking about character, not physical attributes), and be what you want to attract. Be patient, don't settle for abuse, jealousy or controlling behavior, neither exhibit these. Wprk on yourself. Get some self-help books at the library. Become content with yourself, self-sufficient and you will find nicer guys to date. If one starts to treat you badly, you are free to leave that experience and live your life without him!
2006-12-04 16:49:04 · answer #2 · answered by teach_empathy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your current bfd is a controlling a$$ hole! If he doesn't trust you...and doesn't treat you good... he's not worth it because later on it will turn in to an abusive relationship and you won't be able to get out because you will be scared.
Maybe you should try being single for a month or so and see where life takes you. And if it takes you to your EXBFD who you dated in the summer then go with him. But if it ends up with your current bfd...get out of there and run as far away as you can!
Abusive relationships are the worst!
Good Luck =)
2006-12-04 16:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by LiNdSaY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 isn't worth the time of day. Number 2 is right. You just can't go back at the drop of a hat. But number 2 is worth the effort to re-build his feelings for you. Be gentle with him and he will be that gentleman of which you speak.
2006-12-04 16:33:54 · answer #4 · answered by Monsieur Rick 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, ultimately it is a decision you should make on your own. however, if I were you I would say no to both guys and seek someone new who will love, respect and appreciate you for who you are and treat you right. good luck in making your decision :)
2006-12-04 16:38:25 · answer #5 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend time away from both until you can decide.
It's very hard to believe that someone can change when things didn't work out before.
If it was me, I would choose neither.
2006-12-04 16:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Puss in Boots 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump them both, and find another guy
2006-12-04 18:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋