I'm worried about my best friend. He has been with this girl for almost 6 months and he thinks that they love each other and they are going to spend the rest of their life together. This sounds ok but here's the thing. She isn't good to him. She gets mad at him at least once a day for stupid stuff. We are all in college and she is acting like they are in middle school. She is extremely immature. She is also very controlling, if he doesn't do what she wants him to then she gets mad. She has threatened to break up with him multiple times over stupid stuff and recently she said that if he went to visit his dad for New year's day without her then she would cheat on him.
My questions are:
1. Can they really be in love with a relationship like this?
2. Should I do anything or let it play out?
2006-12-04 16:26:59 · 10 answers · asked by zook388 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
wow, that's a tough one. first of all, I wouldn't say a word to this girl. she sounds like a total loser, and if you did try to talk to her, she would probably blow it way out of proportion and end up getting your friend mad at you.
if you opt to talk to your friend, do it carefully. if he loves this girl, he could become very defensive of her and their relationship.
lastly, if given time, your friend will no doubt figure this girl out, and decide on his own that he doesn't want to be with her anymore. if you choose not to say anything to him, just be there for him when it all falls apart. that's really all you can do.
Good Luck With everything.
2006-12-04 16:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it sounds to me as if he is in "love" for the very first time in his life. Unfortunately, he will learn through time, and experience, that this is far from a loving relationship. When someone has to control/threaten another, it is not healthy. You could talk with him, privately, one more time, and tell him that you care about him/don't want to see him fall deeper, therefore, making it harder to resolve his feelings in the long run. Let it go at that point, and just listen the next time he comes to you for advice.
2006-12-04 21:28:39 · answer #2 · answered by tatesgr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as far as she's concerned, I'd say no, it's not love. I would say he loves her or he wouldn't put up with her.
There is not much you can do, you might try talking to him, but I'd say it will fall on deaf ears. When HE believes that she is no good for him and he's had enough, it will be over. He has to make up his own mind about this. Just keep being his friend and be there when he needs you.
good luck to you both
2006-12-04 16:32:14 · answer #3 · answered by bobbie v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might love her, but she doesn't love him like that. She is just using him for the time being. He is nothing but a toy to her. He will see it in due time, just point it out to him the crap that she does when it happens and be a good friend to him. Good luck, God Bless.
2006-12-04 16:32:09 · answer #4 · answered by DepthsOfMyEyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST OF ALL HE THE ONE IN THE REALTIONSHIP SO THERE IS NOTHING THAT YOU CAN DO BUT BE A FRIEND
TO HIM. HE WILL ONLY SEE WHAT HE WANT TO SEE WHEN
IT COME TO HER. SOMETIME IT JUST TAKE TIME FOR HIM
TO SEE WHAT REALLY GOING ON. BUT IT SOUND LIKE
SHE HAS SOME ISSUES BUT YOU NEED TO STAY OUT OF
IT.BECAUSE IF YOU SAY ANYTHING HE MAY NOT WANT TO
BELEVE YOU. AND THEN YOU CAN LOSE A FRIEND. WHEN
HE READY TO SEE HER FOR WHAT SHE IS THEN AND ONLY
THEN WILL HE KNOW THAT SHE NOT THE ONE FOR HIM.
2006-12-04 16:31:53 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend isn't man enough in college to stand up to his gf, then you have to let him figure it out for himself. There has to be a reason he stays with her and you might not understand what that is. You have to let it run it's course.
2006-12-04 16:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by art_tchr_phx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They may be in love but it doesn't sound promising. And you should not get involved it may just backfire on you and they will both be mad at you
2006-12-04 16:43:56 · answer #7 · answered by Diana D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him your thoughts in a respectful concerned friend way... but leave it at that. Ultimately its his decision.. so I'd let him make it... but you can give him your advice of course :)
2006-12-04 16:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard one but talk to him and let him now how you feel and how other people see them.maybe that will help
2006-12-04 16:29:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is a control freak, tell your friend to move on
2006-12-04 18:59:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋