ever other day we argue wat should i do
2006-12-04 16:18:03 · 18 answers · asked by me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just immagine....being married to her and fighting almost everyday....do you want that? I know that I wouldn't want that!
2006-12-04 16:20:05 · answer #1 · answered by LiNdSaY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have been arguing almost everyday, it sounds like your relationship would be very difficult to salvage (if such a possibility exists). As much as you may see how alcohol may be destroying your girlfriend's life and want to help her, you will only continue to "go through the motions" of trying to rescue her until she hits rock bottom and decides for herself that she needs to change her lifestyle.
Since it appears that the relationship is causing you more stress than anything, I'd have to say, "get out now." If you have strong emotions for her, you may explain to her that you can not deal with the drama of her drinking anymore, but would be willing to support her if she ever chose to quit.
Once she is sober, you could re-evaluate the possibility of resuming a relationship with her, or move on, if her behavior remains unchanged.
2006-12-04 16:29:01 · answer #2 · answered by J D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before just dumping her *** to the curb you need to sit down and talk to her about how her drinking makes you feel. You need to suggest help for her and let her know you will help in any way possible if it will save your relationship. If she is absolutely against any help and says she wants to stay this way then you may want to consider giving her the ultimatim of you or alcohol. Alcoholism is hard to fight and sometimes it is hard to make someone understand they have a problem. But what she needs first is help and understanding. If you give her this and she still goes on with the drinking then yes you absolutely need to move on in life. Sorry you are in this position. Good luck.
2006-12-04 16:27:43 · answer #3 · answered by cutie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get her intervention have her family be involved too her heath is at stake. be there for her. Consult the person who is in charge of the intervention and see what they tell u to do. If u need to tell her when the intervention is being done tell her you want her to get better and tell if she can not then u have to leave. I would do an intervention first and have her family and friends be involved if possible. IF its only you that gonna do the intervention the do it anyway. SHE needs you she obvisouly can not quite on her own so she needs you to help her and the intervention can do so.
good luck
2006-12-04 16:23:05 · answer #4 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Until she decides to stop drinking, you will be unhappy. YOU cannot stop her from drinking. She has to want to stop on her own. I did. My ex husband of 28 years is still drinking. I must tell you that I am a recovered alkie of 14 years. If you decide to stay with her while she drinks, I would suggest that you go to Al-anon so that you can learn to live in spite of her and her addiction. No happiness is there for you as long as she drinks. It is painful to leave, but trust me, it is more painful and damaging to stay. I now live in peace and happiness. I wish the same for you.
2006-12-04 16:27:09 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia Susan C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would I've personally delt with an alcoholic they only get worse they can get so bad that's all they will buy that's all they will want and care for once you get so bad you have to have alcohol to just level you out its extremal long to recover from if your bad you'll have to watch her ever move give her meds cook for her they become alot like a disabled person determined to drink good luck and i hope you get out
2006-12-04 16:24:30 · answer #6 · answered by tracemiss 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally think you should. Nothing worse than remaining in an abusive relationship. Sure will save you alot of heartache in the future. You gotta what's right for you!!!
2006-12-04 16:23:41 · answer #7 · answered by brown_sugah064 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say not yet....
i have a friend in the same situation, but in his girls eyes i see a deep depression that needs to be addressed and dealt with.
be firm with her, and if she does not stop drinking, that means she cares more about herself than you.
but if you are too hasty she may fall deeper into despair and ultimately kill herself, one way or the other.
sorry you have to be in this relationship,
and good luck.
2006-12-04 16:23:18 · answer #8 · answered by spoonman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As if you didn't already know - it stands true with males or females...Alcoholism is an additiction and can be very dangerous to you and your girlfriend. You need to leave and try to get her help. Good luck
2006-12-04 16:21:18 · answer #9 · answered by Fabulous Divaness 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her if she'll seek help for the both of you . If she doesn;t ,get out. Believe me its heart wrenching to come put on the short end time and time again
2006-12-04 16:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Foss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have a baby with this person and be tied to her , a kid, child support FOR THE NEXT TWENTY YEARS?
It only gets worse.
Leave and now.
2006-12-04 16:23:31 · answer #11 · answered by Rockies VM 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋