How can I be more approachable toward people?

Question

b/c I find that people ignore me. Ex: my floormate comes into the room and talks to my other roomate and hugs her etc. My other floormate invites her to go to places and to her birthday party. By the way, I have 7 roommates. I always feel left out. I am sad.

Answer 1

If you really listen to their conversations, you will discover that they have something in common.

We Americans are very suspicious of someone who comes up to us and says or conveys, "Hey, let's be friends"

Now, how to find a friend among your floor mates?

Find someone with common interests . Common Major, Common hobby, common music, etcetera.

Then don't talk about being friends, instead , talk about your common interests. Then after a while you will become friends in a slow relaxing manner.

Good luck

Answer 2

He who desires a friend must first show himself friendly. How bout YOU ask someone to do something? I know it can be hard to be left out and loneliness can be so difficult to manage. When I find myself feeling isolated and lonely like that I do 2 things: 1) Remember that God loves me and promises me that He will be with me always, and, 2) Get off my pity pot and go ask someone to do something. Make it your business to make a new friend in the next month. Do you have hobbies? Do they have any clubs on campus for your hobby? Your floormates may suck! But there's always someone out there who can be a friend/associate. It may feel like stepping out of your skin to go and talk to someone you don't know or ask someone to do something with you. But it will almost always get you positive results. If YOU believe you are fabulous, someone else will too.

Answer 3

Proverbs 18:24 (King James Version)

"A man that hath friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticketh closer than a brother."

Do they know how you feel? Try to befriend them. Perhaps if you are shy they are reading that as stuck-up. As the verse above indicates in order to have a friend you must BE a friend.

God bless & keep you. I'm sorry you are sad. You are in my prayers.

Answer 4

If you're outgoing and friendly, just be yourself. Maybe invite yourself to come along with floormates. Kill 'em with kindness and you can't go wrong.

Answer 5

Sometimes it takes a while to figure out how to get close to people.
Then there are people who will never let you get close. There's a lot I could say here but you're just going to have to be very patient. Some things don't come easy.
I Cr 13;8a
12-4-6

Answer 6

Are you the only Christian of the bunch? If so Jesus said such things would happen. Just pray and seek God to place you around like minded people who love God enough to treat you right.

Answer 7

That may not necessarily be a bad thing. Maybe they are involved in things that you do not need to be a part of. Otherwise, pray to God and ask Him for guidance. May God Bless

Answer 8

Jump up, hug them, talk to them, screw waiting for others to make the first move, if you do u will always be behind in life, get out there and do it urself!!!!

Answer 9

You leave yourself out. You count yourself out before it even happens. Low self-esteem. If you don't like yourself, you view others as not liking you and put out a vibe that is read by them. Be happy. Be satisfied where and who you are.

Answer 10

Don't settles for other people to make you happy...and don't blame yourself or think you are unapproachable...college is just a time in your life ..look up, the future is all yours....!!!!!