If you thought your bf/gf had a mental illness that wasn't being treated (or was being ignored altogether), how would you convey your concern and suggest they get help? I care A LOT about this girl, we've dated for some time now, but, looking back, I have always known there was something odd about the way we relate to each other. I think I know what is REALLY going on (though she hasn't told me). I do respect her privacy, but I also care for her a lot, so I am torn about what to do. Half of me says to let her come to her own conclusions while the other half instinctively knows she will just continue to blame herself for the disintegration of our relationship b/c of this potential condition and, therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs. What would you do? We are supposed to get together today.
2006-12-04 16:10:22 · 5 answers · asked by randyken 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
depending on what mental disorder you thing that she has can determine how you might go about it. She may also have some mental hangups or ways of relating or dealing with things that may be helped by therapy but not be a diagnosable "mental disorder"
I would tell her that you love her very much and you are worried about her....you are concerned about what ever....try to get her to talk about it or ask her opinion about how she views it. These behaviors may seem normal to her or she may have an idea that there is something wrong. Tell her that you are there for her and will support her if she wants to get help for it or just go see someone and talk to a professional to get their advice. talking to a therapist doesn't mean there is something wrong with you. Unfortunately seeking mental help is sometimes like recovering from addiction or many other similar things. it may not work unless she makes the decision for herself that she needs help with this. if she is going to see someone to make you happy she may not be completely honest or may resent going.
i would let you know you love her and it is only concern and not judgment. let her know you are there for her and if there is something wrong you will support her thought it. the rest is up to her
2006-12-04 16:26:08 · answer #1 · answered by autumnfire519 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a new girlfriend.
That's cuz you don't have a future with her. Lots of mental illnessses are hereditary and considering how much trouble you are having dealing with one crazy person, you'd probably not want a whole family like that.
I don't want to pass on my "crazy" genes either to any more people. ;) I think I am doing a great service to mankind just by making this decision. ;)
2006-12-05 00:33:39 · answer #2 · answered by WaterStrider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty is very important in a relationship--so is communication. Ask her to share with you as you only have her best interest at heart. This should help, good luck my friend.
2006-12-05 00:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by TS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your concern and care for her justifys ur means and so u should bring it up and discuss it and if it is the ur speculations are tru help her to help herel ie get help.
2006-12-05 00:15:22 · answer #4 · answered by Triple S-sweet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
graduaaly convey the msg to her
2006-12-05 00:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by achu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋