my BF broke up with me today. he says because he cares about me, and he doesn't want to mess up my life because i'm not allowed to date for one more year (when i'm 16) and he doesn't want me to get in trouble. he says that he did it because he loves me. but i don't really feel like he cares at all. all he did was stare at me when i was crying and then walk away. do u guys think he ever cared or is he just a jerk. he used to be really sweet and we had a GREAT relationship. everyone thought we were a great couple but ever since i got in trouble for ditching school with him, he has been worried about me switching schools.
2006-12-04 15:57:36 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm assuming that he's an older guy? In any case, he probably does want to move on (I've used similar break up lines) but it may be for the best. I know at your age that a year seems like forever, but just enjoy being in high school and don't worry so much. If he still likes you when you're 16 you'll know, and if he doesn't like you then you're lucky he broke it off before you went farther.
2006-12-04 16:01:03 · answer #1 · answered by Julian A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Melissa, as a guy... I will tell you the truth about this, although I know it will likely hurt. He may not have originally been a jerk, but he is not really breaking up with you for your sake. He is obviously doing it for some other reason, although I will not say what reason, for I do not know him. I know for sure that he is not doing it for your sake because he said it's because you're "not allowed to date". If that were the only thing, he wouldn't have started dating you in the first place. Sorry I can't be more help...
2006-12-05 00:26:33 · answer #2 · answered by Zack 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hm, depends on the guy, either he got someone else, is tired of you, or whatever other reason he ACTUALLY doesnt want to be with ya.....
OR ( and this is a big OR , not one you should SET all your hopes on )
Maybe, he thinks you are too innocent and naive, and he thinks he is a bad boy, and he feels guilty about changing you in those wayz....... in which case, he does care for you. Though, you probably dont have a chance at a relationship until he grows up a bit...... IF this turns out to be the case, PLEASE dont try to be a badgirl just to try to "get on his good side" or whatnot...... That would be doing the exact thing he was trying to avoid.
2006-12-05 00:02:43 · answer #3 · answered by Drag0n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may have cared at one time but he may have just grown apart from you. He sounds like a royal jerk and your better off without him. If you love a girl you do anything for her, including waiting for her to get to be 16 so she can date. If he really loved you he would have waited for you and also not let you ditch school either. You just got lucky Hun. You saw his true side.
2006-12-05 00:07:21 · answer #4 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well hey put it this way. i was daten this girl for 3 years. she was 15 and i was 18 at the time. well long story short. we broke up when she was 18. and i did the same thing your bf did. she cryed and i didnt raelly do or say much. and it even seemed like i didnt care. but deep down inside i did. and i wish i did care that day bc i still love her and i want her back. and no other girl will come close to her at this time.
2006-12-05 00:35:29 · answer #5 · answered by jaykool069 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know if he cares or not, but it doesn't matter much. You're 15. Have fun, hang out with a group, enjoy the company of friends. Save the "boyfriend" worries for when you're 16. And stay out of trouble!!!!!
2006-12-05 00:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Fitz 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ninety five percent chance he is a jerk. To be honest, girls are never good at picking good guys. I'm sorry, girls are attrocious at it. There ARE good guys, you just have to know how to find them and how to not turn them away, which many girls are GREAT at doing. Sorry about your loss, just use your head next time and really look at the guy. I'll give you several pointers. This isn't really what you're asking but I'm doing it anyway. Something you should check out is how he is around his guy friends. There are plenty of 'good guys' that fall apart around their guy friends and become *** holes. Avoid that. Look at his relationship with people around him. I'm serious, how does he treat his mother and father? Look at things like this, and you'll figure it out. I hope this helps.
2006-12-05 00:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by fslcaptain737 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to be with someone he doesnt have to sneak around with. You dont really believe a 16 year old boy is capable of committing himself to a relationship do you? At 16 they want to have fun.
2006-12-05 00:04:32 · answer #8 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's the right thing to do. i guess he's a bad boy.
if i were to have a girlfriend in school, i would choose someone who's highly intelligent so nothing would occur. everything would go fine... only if there is no intellectual competition between me and her.:)
well, he does and doesn't care for you. i don't think you should've spent your time ditching school with him. learning is fundamental! it was rude of him to leave you like that.. but hey, guys are jerks at times.
2006-12-05 00:01:35 · answer #9 · answered by krazych1nky 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
this has happened to me and if your bf is the same he really likes you a lot lot lot, he likes you so much that he would do anything to alwasy be with you and for him to be with you forever is to be friends cause friends can always be there for eachother but a boyfriend girlfriend thing can end bad and he might lose you. thats the one thing that he dose not want, he would do anything to be with you forever, in his mind this is the best way to do it , just hold on to this new relationship it will spark again if you make it .
2006-12-05 00:01:27 · answer #10 · answered by west17lake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋