Is this wrong???

Question

Ive been ruining relationships for the longest time and i dont seem to care at all. I dont want a relationship or anything close to it. Ive liked this guy and he has a girlfriend whom by the way is my enemy...and he calls me and we have sex all the time behind her back. Is this wrong and what should i do? He called me crying asking me to tell his girlfriend that we aren't hooking up. doesnt that suck that he obiviously chose her. Should i tell her the truth or cover for him? Please help and be honest i can take it!

Answer 1

ask your conscience!

Answer 2

You get to decide whether what you do is right or wrong.

You say you've been ruining relationships for a long time and don't care, and that you don't want a relationship but think it sucks that this guy you've been having sex with all the time chose his girlfriend over you.

What do you want? How is taking responsibility for ruining relationships going to get you what you want?

News flash! You have not been ruining relationships!Unhealthy relationships crumble from within. The guy that had sex with you and called crying about his girlfriend is responsible for the problems in his relationship, not you.

If this girl is your enemy, why talk to her at all? You don't owe her anything. You will end up telling her whatever you think will get you what you want. I'm not saying you'll get what you want, you probably aren't even sure what that is.

I suggest you take a little time by yourself and honestly ask yourself what do you want so bad that you think you have to hurt other people to get it. I am not saying you are responsible for their problems or pain, you are not. However, what you have said makes it sound like you take pleasure out of thinking that you are responsible for ruining relationships, yet have found that it doesn't truly make you happy.

You alone are responsible for yourself, your feelings, and your actions. You alone are responsible for your happiness and your discomfort. Focusing on others and trying to find your happiness through them won't work. You may find small pleasures here and there, but you will always be chasing it.

The help and honesty you need will come from you and be for you. Find yourself and you'll find your bliss.

Answer 3

I think you should tell her. Because she shouldn't be with a man who is lying to her. Now if he was being truthful and she knew about you and decided to stay then that's fine.
She should have the chance to know what's going on. And he doesn't care for her nor you. Men are simple. If they want to be with you they'll be with you. And if he really likes you he won't be calling late at night, because that is only a booty call. Instead he would be calling you earlier in the week to make a date.
Definitely, tell him that if he doesn't tell her, then you will. So you give him the option of letting him become truthful. And if by a certain time he hasn't told her, then you should tell her.

And I don't think she should be mad at you, her boyfriend shouldn't have done anything with you, and she should be mad at him. But purposely ruining people's relationships is kinda skanky.
Not knowing he has a girlfriend and knowing he does is quite a difference. And trust me you shouldn't be the latter!

Answer 4

hmmmm, this sounds very much like your extra boyfriend needs to look at his position, your not the problem, he is. he needs to tell his girlfriend and you both that he is not doing the right thing, as for you, I think that you are interfering with something that you should stay away from, but that is only an opinion on my part. I would be totally p... off if I were his girlfriend, but I am a man so this is where my point of reference is from. I don't mind having more that lone partner, but I don't share, so there it is. i say it is wrong

Answer 5

I can never tell if these questions are real or not.

If it is real, you should call up this girl and tell her the truth. Time to be an adult. It's fine to screw around and have fun- just don't do it with someone else's man. There's plenty of men out there who are unattached and want commitment free sex. Find them. Don't ruin other people's lives because you're a horny commitment phobe.

Answer 6

i don't know how badly you have been hurt by the opposite sex to feel and do the things you do, there is gotta be a reason behind all of this.as for the cheating boyfriend if you really hate her then don't say that he is cheating for she will dump him in a split second and there goes your advantage over her. But if you don't hate her then yes i really think you should tell her cause it will only get much more hurtful for her later on.and if you really did not care at all then you would not be asking us this question good luck.

Answer 7

I feel sorry for you. I would hate you if you slept with my man . You say you don't want a relationship, with you saying he chose her makes it sound like you do.
One of my closest friends was with a guy that kept telling her that he'd leave his girlfriend to be with her. He never did. She felt cheap and used. She didn't see any harm in being with someone Else's boyfriend because she was convinced (by him) that they were meant for each other. I wouldn't cover for him. he led you on, he chose her.

Answer 8

enemy or not your both lying an decieving her now huh he doesnt love her or he wouldnt be sleeping with you!! ask yourself if you like the person you are then make up your own mind from there, how would you feel if it was being done to you??...an would you want to know if it was you?? your actions an his deserve consequences as a human being you know this....but are you women enuf to except them an let him deal with his? he he wanted more than a booty call darl he would be with one or the other,sorry for being strait forward but you did ask an said you could handle it!! goodluck in your decision an your possible actions.

Answer 9

Why the hell are you messing with a guy in a relationship....I hate to say it but one day when you are madly in love with someone he may just turn around on you and cheat with any pair of legs he can find...that is bad karma and for all its worth you deserve it....

Answer 10

YES it is wrong. You have no morals. Moral adj. 1. Of or pertaining to the principals of right and wrong. 2. In accordance with standards of right conduct : virtuous. How you get these foreign stuff ? I think it's to late for you.

Answer 11

WHAT YOU ARE DOING IS WRONG BUT IT YOUR CHOICE YOU KNOW WHAT YOU ARE DOING JUST BE CAREFULL THERE ARE ALOT OD DISEASES OUT THERE. THE BEST THING TO DO IS THINK OF WHOEVER IS THE CLOSEST TO YOUR HEART AND THINK WOULD YOU WANT SOMEONE TO HURT THIS SPECIAL PERSON THE WAY YOU ARE HURTING PEOPLE, AND THAT SHOULD HELP YOU WITH YOUR ANSWER, AND ALWAYS REMEMBER THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS WELCOME, YOU ARE NOT THE ONLY ONE HURTING THIS PERSON SO IS THE GUY, REMEMBER YOU ARE NOT THE ONE WHO IS WITH THIS GIRL. SO HOPE THIS HELPS.