are you afraid of rejection?

Question

i am afarid of getting rejected by the guy i like it will be VERY embarrasing for me! are you afraid of rejection and why?also how can i just approach him withought being afraid of rejection? thank you

Answer 1

everybody's afraid of rejection....the desire to be like is universal..yes..all of us desired to be like most especially by those persons we like...but as a matter-of-factly-said,,some people around may not like us in return....however,it should be noted that rejection is just as normal as liking someone...and as long as you can manage..don't be afraid to be rejected..we should overcome the fear to be rejected..how can we get along smoothly with other people if we have that fear..right??..if you like someone..then don't be afraid to approach him/her because it doesn't matter if he/she will not like you in return...at least,you've been courageous enough to express yourself and to suppress your fear that you will be rejected...furthermore..each and one of us don't like somebody else,too...because we are establishing some standards for us to like someone..for example..we don't like him/her because he/she is poor,or not that good-looking one or flirt..etcetera..but there are those one in a million kind of man who likes everybody regardless of their status in life or whatever and whoever they are..and i hope you're one of them...and also the guy that you like...and if he's of that kind then go..approach him...just be yourself..there's no such bad thing as approaching the guy you like...its better for you to take the risk than keeping it yourself..its better to risk something and that is rejection than to risk nothing just because you've done nothing as to approach the guy that you like....and rejection is a part of life,,goodluck

Answer 2

Most women when push comes to shove wil say that this is either THE biggest or the second biggest reason that they don't do the asking (the other is the desire to not feel "too forward"). Indeed, if/when they decide to ask, they go through all of the false approaches that boys do - pretty much regardless of what age they start. This can be really awkward when a 50 year old woman decides to ask a guy out. You may not be most women. Of course, JUST like guys, once you ask, it gets easier and easier and easier. Maybe you did the asking early on - and maybe you forgot what that was like. In any case, you keep asking and asking until eventually, you get to the point where you EXPECT to get rejected (at least most guys do). This can actually come off as worse (from the askee's point of view). Of course, if you're a reasonably good looking woman, you probably have a better "hit" ratio than most guys (even reasonably good looking), which means you won't be anywhere near as discouraged as most guys end up getting. But ... the result of this is that most men actually (in the long run) handle personal rejection in their later years better than most women. They don't take it personally. It's just part of life. That's very different than a relationship ending (which is devastating for men), but in terms of trying to start a relationship and getting nowhere? Big deal.

Answer 3

Well what a coincidence, we're in the same situation. I am scared of rejection, yes. That would be 1 reason why I told him I liked him through e-mail. If he didn't like me, I wouldn't have to worry about being publically humiliated and having people watch me get rejected. I am also scared of rejection bc....it's natural. Nobody likes rejection......It could affect someone's self-esteem or something. Another reason why I'm scared of rejection is because it is devastating to know that the 1 that you like doesn't feel the same way. I really really hope that my guy likes me, and that your guy likes you, that way rejection won't be a factor as of right now :D. God Bless. Remember: If you are rejected, don't fear bc there are more fish in the sea, and if the boy didn't let you down gently, he's a jerk, so it was fate for you not to be with him ;)

Answer 4

Well as a general rule, I think if a guy likes you he will do the asking. I believe most men enjoy the chase, and if there is a conquest to be had they will be more than happy to ask you out. But, there are occasionally shy guys who are afraid of rejection too, and probably wouldn't ask you out on a date unless they were very sure you would say yes. If you know this guy is shy, then yes, go for it and ask him out!! And don't be afraid, you can't expect EVERYONE to like you. Guys ask out girls all the time, you win some you lose some. Its just a fact of life.

Answer 5

Just approach the guy in a friendly manner, sweetie...if he doesn't seem interested then go on your way. Rejection is a part of life. Not every one you are attracted to is going to have reciprocal feelings. I'm not afraid of rejection. In the beginning, perhaps. But not any more.

Answer 6

I'm totally afraid of rejection. No one I know like to find out that the person they are interested in thinks they are the "scum of the Earth" so to speak. You might just try starting a conversation about anything and see where it leads. You might get a " feel" for what he's thinking and a little insight that will help.

Answer 7

yes. getting rejected can be very hard. i havent had that happen yet (and i hope it never does) but i fear all the time that my fiance will leave me. i of course am without a valid reason for feeling this way but it is something in me that i cant get over. i worry about it all the time. this is my fiance that i speak of so your situation is a little different ( i have been with my guy for 2 and a half years now) but i have this thing about being rejected and i dont want it to happen so i never approached guys. i always waited for them to come to me. however, you may not have the same feelings, so i'd say be brave and go for it. the worst that can happen is "no". sometimes that helps me with other things, like when i have to ask my friends for something. i just look at it like "the worst they can say is no".

Answer 8

I am afraid of rejection or of loosing my husband. It's because after 29 years my dad left my mom.

My fears are something my husband and I are working on overcoming together.

I don't think I can help you much, except to say, if he isn't up for it, he doesn't deserve you.

Answer 9

Rejection is one of those touchy parts of life which sooner or later everyone is going to have to face. If you get rejected, then for some reason or other; things simply weren't meant to be so.

When one door is closed, another door opens.

Answer 10

Rejection is in your mind, he either appreciates you for who you are or he doesn't. It's not about you. He couldn't know you well enough to make a learned decision. And you will be no less of a person after you meet him than you were before. So get over yourself and spring, if he don't get jiggy wit it, there's always..NEXT.

Answer 11

You have to ask him.

YOU ARE IN A WIN/WIN situation

if he accepts you. you win! Love is in your life
if he rejects you, you also win
BECAUSE... why would you want to be with a guy that does not love you and think you are the prettiest girl in the world

if you do not ask, you will never know
maybe he is shy and afraid to ask you in fear that you would reject him.

then you both lose out.
take the risk
Ahhh you are a hot babe he has gotta love you
Good Luck