this girl and i were in a very committed relationship for 2 and a half years. im 22 and shes 21. everything seemed to be going really good like always except we were arguing more often. i was this girls first boyfriend and also her first kiss, she wanted to save herself for marriage and i was quite okay with that i never pushed her, i just loved her for her. recenlty before we broke up we were talking about getting married and buying a house and all that. weve been apart for 2 months now and we talk every 2 0r 3 weeks. im giving her space like she asked for but am iwasting my time aiting on a decision. i truly believe that she is my true love but that dosent matter if she dosent feel the same. so i would just like some advice from the ladies on what she may be thinking or doing. does she just need to see if theres sumthing better or does she just need do some things on her own before she settles down. any advice would be great.
2006-12-04 15:21:29 · 13 answers · asked by matt t 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Many times couples go on breaks so the people can decide if what they're doing is right. It doesn't mean they're looking for someone else, just figuring out if this is the right person. Since you're her first boyfriend she's a bit confused and curious as to what things would be like with someone new. Give her a couple more weeks and if she hasn't changed tell her exactly how you feel. Tell her you don't want to wait around because you feel as though she hasn't made up her mind or it doesn't seem as though she wants to be with you. Tell her you love her and you'd love to spend the rest of your life with her.
2006-12-04 15:24:25 · answer #1 · answered by tia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are 22 and she is 21, you both have a lot more living to do before settling down. I thought I met the love of my life at your age too. NOT. Two years later I met the man I married and we have been together 18 yrs.
When a female (or male) needs "space" they want to see other people. That's it. Don't wait around, your real love is still out there.
Your ex will probably come slithering back later, but by that time you will be dancing with your new hottie and not looking back.
We never forget our first loves, they just become happy memories.
2006-12-04 15:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by moddfemm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know this is tough to hear, and you probably won't believe it yourself for quite some time (I've been in a similar position myself), but she is not interested in you any more. Unfortunately, for whatever reason, she has decided to move on. Maybe she was curious about what else was on there, maybe she just got tired. The point is that if you're talking every 2 or 3 weeks, odds are you'll never get back together. Salvage what you can, and try to get on with your life. It'll be tough, and it'll take time, but its the only thing left to do.
2006-12-04 15:25:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that one of two things is happening: she is scared or now that she has freedom, she doesn't want to give it up.
If she is scared you need to sit down and talk to her about it. First ask her if she has any fear of commitment or anything in your relationship. Have a loooonnng conversation about it. Both of you need to think things through to the most likely conclusion.
If she is just enjoying freedom and doesn't want to be tied down, you need to confront that too. If you want to wait for her to get over this freedom thing (if she ever does), you wait. Otherwise I would talk to her about getting it out of her system and getting together with you or it's over between you two.
Sounds like she may have found that grass is greener on the other side. I know that is probably hard to hear but things are looking bleak. I would give her an ultimatum if you are really wanting to be with her.
2006-12-04 15:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by Erin H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I hate to do this to you but "need to figure things out" means "need to date other people." I know that sucks! You sound sincere and not like somebody who is going to toss their cookies over this so I'll tell ya, 21 is that partying age, and she's got some other boyfriend(s) she wants to be with or girlfriend(s) working her over telling her what a loser she will be if she settles downt b/c she needs someone to club with. If you can forgive and forget the first scenario then just test the second - tell her you love her but can't wait for ever - not if she cares even a little about you - she's got to tell you - and ask her "should I stay or should I go . . . for good?"
2006-12-04 15:29:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a lady, so dont take this too serious,
But I think she is reconsidering. Like she been with you and only you, She dont know whats out there, Even if you are the best thing that ever happened to her, she is still young.....
Give it one more week, then ask her if you two are going to be getting back together or not( tell her you love her and all that mush ),BUT a month is plenty of "thinking" time, and you need to know.
2006-12-04 15:29:22 · answer #6 · answered by Drag0n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i'm not a lady out there! But as for me (A guy) I know when a woman says she needs time to herself, then she has found out that you and her may not be as compatible as she once thought. And she may actually be needing another person to be with for moral support and friendship. This holds true to most women in this world and it don't change. Sorry dude but she may be the suprising 20% that actually needs time to figure herself out. Good Luck in either situation!
2006-12-04 15:27:27 · answer #7 · answered by bigdaddy052171@verizon.net 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He appears like a complicated guy. i might guess the two hes attempting some thing new, or he may well be springing up emotions for you and might p.c. to evaluate you, or he may well be alienated by employing the asking for a dating section, or he got here upon somebody and doesnt p.c. to harm you. Sorry if my solutions everywhere, yet myself being one, i understand that adult males are extremely extremely perplexing, hormones get to their heads worse than women, and that they dont many times think of issues throuh. It sounds extra like the final 3 i mentioned, lots extra probable the 1st 2 of the final 3. My suggestion is to no longer get yours hopes severe, be effective, yet no longer clingy. adult males like self belief and hate clingyness. stable success and desire this facilitates:)
2016-10-14 00:59:34 · answer #8 · answered by Erika 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straight up bub your HISTORY, Dont know why the fairer sex cant just be blunt and tell ya I'm done no they gotta make a long drawn out gut wrenching deal of it being o so ******* nice but the ***** wont think enough of ya to tellTRUTH. this **** sux
2006-12-04 15:27:03 · answer #9 · answered by steve h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes not sure if she wants to settle down yet, maybe she thinks theresm ore things she wants to do then to get married soon or anything like that.. Maybe she doesnt like the arguing and is having second thoughts on things and isnt sure if she likes u or not.. and needs some time...
theres many things it can be
2006-12-04 15:26:22 · answer #10 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋