i dont reall know what to do this guy that im going out with wants to have sex or something close to it and i dont know what to tell him... and im 15.... and im not really sure if im ready for it or what is wrong with me its like i want to but i dont do you have any ideas?? part of its my prob b.c there is something wrong inside of me that im not sure what it is any ideas there eaither?
2006-12-04 15:17:46 · 20 answers · asked by shorty_rdb 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he siad nothing would happen and that he wont leave me but idk how long that would last and if its protected isnt there always that odd chance
2006-12-04 15:18:36 · update #1
when he keeps telling me taht hes confused why i dont really know what i wnat to do waht to i tell him then that im not ready the he will be like why and when he asks that what shouldi say
2006-12-04 15:26:33 · update #2
he is 16..... i feel really stupid for asking you guys but i didnt know and how am i suppose to tell him just flat out no or be like i dont think im ready or what?? please help me with this one at least
2006-12-04 15:38:00 · update #3
I took my girlfriends v-card when she was 15 and I was 16. I say do it.
2006-12-04 15:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by bigbadbutters05 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes there is always that odd chance as you say .At 15 Your to young to start having sex the way you talk about him tells me you are not ready yet and if he truely likes you he will wait I assure you of that if he leaves you then that would probably happen in the future after sex anyway .There is nothing wrong with you ,you are just being pressured by a jerk so make him back off .Wait for the one you love then it will feel right just because other girls do it doesn't mean you have to you have many good years ahead of you sweetheart take your time enjoy friendships and oneday that romeo will come by and catch your eye .The old saying goes if everyone jumped of a cliff would you ,of course not you have too much brains to do that .
2006-12-04 15:33:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey...I am a 46 yr old woman...I am here to tell you that is the oldest line there is....*I will still be there for you*..if it doesn't feel right don.t do it!!!! That is the only thing that you can keep and share with the right person when he comes along....just because everybody else is doing it doesn't mean it is the thing to do....I wish I would have had someone tell me that when I was a teenager...It is a very important step in your life that you can never take back once it is given....Baby girl...hang on to innocense as long as you can...you will not regret it in the future...I hope I have helped you even just a little. By asking for help I think you are showing that deep down you know this is not what you want to do....follow your feelings!!!
2006-12-04 15:28:32 · answer #3 · answered by lookin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, hun, if you have that funny feeling in the pit of your stomache that it's just not right, don't do it. Being only 15 and 16, (having been there myself and I waited...it was well worth it) you have a while yet before your comfortable with sex. And there is always the chance of a condom breaking and getting pregnant or something else (STD). You have to be comfortable with your body first before you should even think about having sex. That only comes with time.
You said you want to but you don't. I know exactly what you mean. And there is nothing wrong with you, it's totally natural. If you have any feeling about not wanting to do it, listen to yourself. Wait for it. If he gets mad because you won't, than he wasn't worth your time and that's all he is after anyways. Don't let him push you into it by making you feel bad. If he is understanding than good for him and maybe you'll stay together longer. Eventually you won't feel scared anymore but it may take a while. Even a few years possibly. But it's your body and you are to be the one who says yes or no! Good luck hun and blessed be.
2006-12-04 16:22:08 · answer #4 · answered by LadyMagick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him no, that you are not ready. If he pressures you, he is just wanting sex and is not taking your feelings into account.
I bet there is nothing wrong with you, you just are being smart because you know that you aren't ready yet, even though you may physically want to. That is really very normal, I think.
Wait until you are completely comfortable with the idea and the person. You will be so glad you did!
2006-12-04 15:27:52 · answer #5 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't do it. You're only 15, you will have many other opportunities later in life. I'm 15 myself, and I would never have sex with a guy that I've only gone out with for a couple years (I asume you haven't been with him any longer than that). Wait until you know it's the right time, and you don't have any doubts (and you will know). Yes, there is always that chance that even with protection you will get pregnant, don't throw your life away.
2006-12-04 15:20:50 · answer #6 · answered by Love_Forever 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, I'm not gonna preach. But I really don't think it is a good idea. However that is just my opinion. Please, just do what u think is right and if u follow ur heart, everything will be ok. Understand? However regards to u... u r a smart girl not to just rush into anything with out at LEAST getting a few oppinions first. U might also want to talk to ur mom or big sister or elder female that u can trust. HANG IN THERE, GOOD LUCK, AND I HOPE IT TURNS OUT RIGHT!!!
2006-12-04 15:21:59 · answer #7 · answered by AnneMarie H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If YOU are not sure then the answer is a BIG NO ! If he decides to break up with you ? then good riddance to him. Might be all he ever really wanted from you. You are ONLY 15 and you have a long way to go in life. Don't do something you will regret later like...." I lost my virginity to ah? what was his name ?...ah...ah ..?" Be strong...you can do the right thing which is....? Ah...I think I'll wait . Good Luck !
2006-12-04 15:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's "something close to" sex? Nothing is, really. But kissing and above-the-belt petting is time-tested safe and fun. What's wrong with guys these days, who think if you won't go farther, you're some kind of prude, or you're somehow hurting them? Gah. Subhuman!
Turn him down, and do it with utter confidence, like you don't care what he thinks and you'll look down on him if he leaves you over it, like you expect him to stay for someone as self-controlled and self-knowing as yourself. If you were ready, you'd know for sure. Therefore you're sure you aren't ready.
2006-12-04 15:26:30 · answer #9 · answered by zilmag 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you're not ready then don't do it. Only wait until you are ready. If you boyfriend can't handle the waiting then the relationships was never meant to be.
2006-12-04 15:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are asking then you arent ready...I have no idea what you mean by wrong inside of you, mentally physcially? You need to be more specific in the future, but if he wont deal with you not putting out, put him out to the curb...
2006-12-04 15:20:23 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋