A friend of mines is having a kids party in a very rough, ghetto part of town. She has invited me and my daughter to attend. How can I tell her, without hurting her feelings, that I do not plan to go. The reason I don't want to go is because practically every other day on the news I hear about someone getting killed in this town.
2006-12-04 15:15:50 · 14 answers · asked by veaj 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Just say no.
Coach
2006-12-04 15:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by Thanks for the Yahoo Jacket 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When something is said directly to you, simply smile and say thank you for the invite.
Do not indicate if you will attend or not. If pressed for an answer, say as with each day - will see what the day holds.
However in effort to not come across as totally disregarding the birthday - be sure you have even a small gift to acknowledge altho did not attend.
Realize one particular area holds no more opportunity for harm, these days, than another - times as just that now.
Best wishes!
2006-12-04 23:21:00 · answer #2 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't tell her why you cannot go. I wouldn't want to lie to her so I would probably go ahead and make plans now of something you need to do that day. After you have plans, call and tell her, "I am sorry but we won't be able to make it Suzie's birthday party. We have something else we have to do Saturday. Will you be home on Friday night so I can drop her present off and the girls can play?"
She should be expecting some RSVPs to be declines.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 23:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by SD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly I'd tell her that you're worried and you don't really want to go because it's a rough part of town. If she's a true friend, she'll understand.
2006-12-04 23:18:21 · answer #4 · answered by Karl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
True friend would understand if you did not want to bring your child into place like that also tell her that you don't feel safe with her living their either. Or make up an excuse just remember the lie you told her so you don't get caught.
2006-12-04 23:26:58 · answer #5 · answered by mandrin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with her and at the same time put yourself in her shoes and tell her in a way that wouldn't sound offensive to you. By avoiding the issue will cause her to wonder about her friend ship with you. Lying to her will cause her not to trust you as a friend. If she is a real friend she will be more understanding about your fears.
2006-12-05 01:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest. She knows she lives in the ghetto. This should be a wakeup call for her to move her children to a safer neighborhood. If she gets angry about this and says that she is going to cut you, tell her you know where she lives and that you know she ain't talkin' to you, and that you're going to jack her up.
2006-12-04 23:20:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's hard not to hurt their feelings if you tell them the truth. I suggest you say you will try to make it, but don't go. If they ask, say something came up.
2006-12-05 10:50:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no need to give any reason. Just say, "Thanks for the invitation. We won't be coming to the party."
(Although if it were me, I'd go. Often places aren't as scary as they seem to be.)
2006-12-05 00:44:56 · answer #9 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should make an excuse and tell her your daugher is sick or something.
2006-12-04 23:17:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋