i am divorced.. 3 kids he has no children.. he brings it up at times he wants children and since we are both 32 I think time is running out so maybe we should try..but i really don't want to scare the crape out of him.. we have been dating for a long time.. but what time frame is appropriate.. over a year or two my internal clock says do it now or never..but how??
2006-12-04 15:08:53 · 12 answers · asked by red74 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you living together? Do you want to get married? Those things should be in place before you bring it up, if they are not-- don't. If they are, begin the conversation with your age, your goals etc. If you really want more kids, he needs to be on board anyway if he is the one.
2006-12-04 15:12:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe the better question you should be posing to him, is where is this relationship headed. Are you all intending on marrying or seeing how it all plays out. As you are already divorced with 3 children, I would think that you would want a bit more stability not just for yourself & children but any new children you might want to bring into this family. Open communication is always best if you want a fullfilling long term commitment. If he has indicated a desire to have children, and even at 32 you both are still young enough - you have some time to make those important life decisions.
Being 32 myself, with a desire to have children & a fiance I felt the pressure of the ever ticking clock but have recently realized that I am still young (state of mind/heart) and life expectancies & medical care is far more advance for women to have children well into their 50's (though that's pushing it for me). Most importantly in this day & society is stability & peace of mind in making the right choices ....not just for you & your man but for the children you have & hope to have. I think its' time for a loving sit down, maybe bring up how special it is to have him in your life & your childrens especially at the holidays and you'd love nothing more than to grow & build a life together....tell him your ready & with hope he'll feel the same way!
2006-12-04 15:18:12 · answer #2 · answered by Aphrodite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 17:20:54 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suss him out, ask him simple questions that will give u more of an idea on when he wants a baby. U could even pop one in like can u see having a baby with me? u will get ur answers and be more comfortable asking him those questions instead of hitting him with the big one first.
2006-12-04 15:12:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you cant ask him this question without scaring the crap out of him, you probably shouldn't have a kid with him. When it comes down to it, just ask the guy.
At 32 your not too old, but the younger you are the easier it will be. So just ask!
2006-12-04 15:15:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh young lady just ask him if he wants to go halves in a baby is that so hard he says yes or no simple isn't it .Just make sure that is what you want and can cope with the extra pressure .Good luck have a nice day.
2006-12-04 15:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you just have to be honest and tell him. I know this is incredibly hard, because I am going through the same thing. You don't want your fear to take away the possibility of a child. ...and if this is really what you want, it is only fair that you know his actual, straight forward feelings on this important subject.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 15:16:48 · answer #7 · answered by Contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk with him about it. If he loves you then he'll be fine with it , especially since he talks about having children. But your wasting time by not talking with him.... you can't worry about scaring him off, you need to be honest with him, and if that scares him off then maybe he shouldn't be around anyway? hope everything works out for you. I'm sure it will... just relax.
2006-12-04 15:11:53 · answer #8 · answered by mac15 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
start shopping for baby stuffs and stare with smile with every baby that cross ur path
2006-12-04 15:11:37 · answer #9 · answered by akira 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out good baby's name and say him our next baby's name is "ur choosen name"
and asked his commitment about ur baby's name, may be then he feel the real thought of ur's.
2006-12-04 15:20:52 · answer #10 · answered by e_friendship 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋