It's one day. Men spend thousands on an engagement ring. Churches, hotels, rehearsel dinners can add up to tens of thousands of dollars. Then you still want a honeymoon right? When will you buy a house? Never?
2006-12-04 15:01:45 · 30 answers · asked by Your #1 fan 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My wife and I had a nice lunchtime reception with open bar, dancing, and a week in Hawaii for less than 10k including 2 simple rings. We got our money back from the reception. So, all we paid for was the honeymoon.
2006-12-04 15:14:26 · update #1
Some people just want to have as big or bigger a wedding than someone else, we believe. Our marriage is wonderful; I married my best friend. She didn't want a diamond nor a big wedding. We didn't leave the state for a honeymoon. We have been happily married for 50+ years. If you live life as God designed it, He blesses you abundantly. Life is wonderful with the only person you have ever been in bed with only after marriage, and it keeps getting better. Young people today have their goals backwards and miss out on a really good life. We have seen many marriages fall apart but we have all we need plus some. We have a lovely home in a good neighborhood, no debts, and money to spend on our wants and needs. The most important thing is that we respect each other and are still best friends.
2006-12-04 15:18:39 · answer #1 · answered by Bud B 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't know!! Probably because people think weddings are worth it or something.
As for a honeymoon, well, we're travelling now and plan to travel again some time, but niether of us see much purpose in the honeymoon. We already live and travel together.
And a house? Ha! So not ready for that one. Even if we had the money, there's a lot of things we both want to do such as more traveling, finishing university/grad school ($$$), more traveling. A house is at least 10 years away. I can commit to a spouse, but I can't make a long term commitment to a location just yet.
2006-12-04 20:10:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on what you want. If you don't see the value in a big, expensive wedding, then don't do it. But others DO see value in spending the money. Some people think buying a flat-screen TV for a few thousand dollars is a waste of money (can you believe that!!).
It's only "over-spending" if you don't want to do it and do it anyway.
Some would argue that the memories from the event are priceless and are worth the money. Additionally, many people receive tens of thousands of dollars in gifts from weddings (both in cash and in goods). Who says they can't buy a house after paying for a wedding? Perhaps everyone's financial situation is not the same as yours.
I got married 2 years ago (215 guests), bought a house with my new wife a year and a half ago, and had a baby 9 months ago.
We paid for our wedding as we went along with the planning and did not go into debt. But it was big, nice, and worthwhile.
2006-12-04 15:05:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cool-K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you on this. Weddings are about the bride and her family keeping up with the Joneses so to speak.
I knew a gal once that expained how her wedding cost over $15,000 and her parents had mortgaged their home to give her such a splendid wedding ... in the 1970s! Six months later they were divorced.
Given the present-day economy, I think most young couples would do well to forgo the fancy clothing, lavish flowers, etc. A simple wedding and a pot-luck reception would save the families a great deal of money and they could instead make a nice gift to the new couple to get a home, have a nice honeymoon, etc.
Diamond rings are terribly expensive too. If anyone ever proposes to me again, I hope he's smart enough to get me a hot car instead. He can park it in front of my house, knock on the door and say, "Will you marry me and drive this car?" hehehe
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-04 15:07:15 · answer #4 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People overspend on wedding so that the bride and groom can get better gifts. It is a fact that the "nicer" the wedding and reception is the more people will come to it and the more gifts the bride and groom will get. I had a simple wedding with just a best man and maid of honor and our rehersal dinner was just the four of us at a fancier restaurant then we would normally go to. I had 150 people attend the reception and I had more compliments than my friend did with her 700 person reception.
2006-12-04 15:07:06 · answer #5 · answered by Dee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I totally agree with you. Although it is a special day, people have put such important on all the pomp and circumstance that goes into the celebration. I think most girls have fantasized about their dream wedding a million times, so that when the time comes, they over do everything. People tend to forget that it is just ONE day...the first day to the rest of your married life...They forget that $$$ is also a foundation that they can build on. Instead of spending tens of thousands on a wedding, they could put that money towardsd a home--something that you can grow into and share for a longer period of time.
2006-12-04 15:49:26 · answer #6 · answered by Benji's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This past weekend, I attended a wedding that cost over 300k.
For the most part, it was so the brides mother could make sure that everyone could see how successful she has been. I feel safe to say that the bride would have been cool with getting married at the Justice of the Peace on a Tuesday morning.
With that said... No other word could describe the spread better than "Phat".
2006-12-04 15:15:52 · answer #7 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Over spending on weddings is foolish. Seems like everyone wants to out-do the next. Elope. It's cheaper and you can put your money towards a house and at the same time, you have your honeymoon included. You can always have a reception later but it doesn't have to be elaborate.
2006-12-04 15:06:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree. That sort of money would be much better spent on a house. I know my boyfriend and I would rather cut costs on a wedding to be able to afford a bigger house.
I think some people spend a fortune on a wedding, as they view that as their utimate achievement in life. To me it's just a means to an end (highly unromantic of me I know!), it's not something to be achieved as it doesn't require talent.
2006-12-04 15:08:35 · answer #9 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rofl, I do agree.... when I got married my father ask me , if I wanted a big wedding or the money... I said money.. because I wanted and needed it to start out on.... unless the money is there to spend and will not interfere with the future, it is ok to go whole hog, as we say here in the south... but, I do NOT see why anyone would want to put their family and loved ones into debt for something so passing... if love is that fragile why fall in love ?? I would have married my husband in a barn with just chickens there if that is all we could have had.... I bought my own ring and mother made my dress..... I wore my sisters veil... and I would do it all over again ........ *sigh*.............. God bless
2006-12-04 15:07:59 · answer #10 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋