okay so the other day i found some unreccognized numbers in his cell phone, i asked him about them and he said he didn't know, so i returned the calls and turns out they were girls' phone numbers, when he had told me before that he don't talk to girls. Okay we live together, just so this makes more sense, every tuesday night, i go to work at 10p and work until the next day. well, i got out of work early one wednesday morning, at 4am, when i came home, he was not here, i called him and he didn't answer, then he came home a half an hour later. I asked him where he was and he said no where, i got mad and he said i was over reacting, i don't know what to do. he does so many things similar to these that i mentioned and accuses me of not trusting him and over-reacting. Am i being blind to the fact that he is cheating and falling for his lies? does anyone have advice?
2006-12-04 15:01:19 · 10 answers · asked by the MRS. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When my boyfriend cheated on my a year back, he did similar things. He always seemed to turn it around on me and make me feel bad about "not trusting him" or whatever like that.. and would accuse me of cheating as well.
What I don't get is why he didn't tell you where he hell he was.... what does he have to hide? Hm..
2006-12-04 15:07:53 · answer #1 · answered by football_crazy_62 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a reason people have intuition. It doesn't look good and I am sure any woman would of reacted the same way. At 4 am you should be in bed at home alone, not "no where". Anyways, you said that he does so many things. Weather he is cheating or not, do you really want to be with someone who makes you feel insecure when he's not around? Or with someone that you don't have to worry about anything. Cause as long as these things are going on, it's always gonna be in the back of your mind and you deserve better.
2006-12-04 15:09:13 · answer #2 · answered by summer_p1b1x4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very important for you to trust your instincts and go with your gut. I think it's bull that he doesn't know who the girls' numbers are that are in his cell phone. He just 'happened' to be gone at 4am?? Yikes. That sounds pretty sketchy to me. There is absolutely no reason he can't tell you where he was! That's not being nosy on your part, that's being a good, caring girlfriend, and if he can't accept that, he's got some personal issues.
2006-12-04 15:15:26 · answer #3 · answered by laura w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he usually open with you?Or is it always hard to get info otta him?Just ask him directly.Coming home after 4am and tells you he was no where sounds odd.Best advice for any relationship is communication.Just remember,you deserve better.If he can't give that to you,don't let the door hit his a$$ on the way out.
2006-12-04 15:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by noname 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you already didn't trust him enough by going through his cell phone tells me that the relationship is near over before reading any further.
2006-12-04 15:11:32 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
although he doesnt have to tell you where hes going every single occation( over protectiveness) it does sound like hes hiding something. you should ask him straight up who the girls are and... if hes cheating.. if he delays the question and is like oh ur over reacting.. and makes up excuses not to answer it hes cheating...( I've had an ex boyfriend I asked him straight up if he liked me anymore he delayed it and was like beth why are u being like this blah blah blah went on) so I've been in the situation I would tell more but I dont want to get into it. its kinda long
2006-12-04 15:06:43 · answer #6 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is cheating... get rid of him. if he cant give u an explanation on where he has been at 4am in the morning he is up to something
2006-12-04 15:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to catch him in the act..take a tuesday off and follow him..sounds fishy to me...id say somethings up!!!
2006-12-04 15:05:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes hes cheating. and hes using your insecurities to twist and turn the truth.
2006-12-04 15:09:32 · answer #9 · answered by bobndew 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to ask him this question directly and i think you will find your answer
2006-12-04 15:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by newcomer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋