When do you know that you both are really ready any tips that could help in the preparing of having a child?
2006-12-04 14:57:34 · 17 answers · asked by juicbox {girl gamer} 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I don't think any woman or man can be truly ready to have a child. There's certain things you have to consider of course. Are you financially able to take care of a child? Don't let anyone lie about that, children are expensive, they always need something. Are both of you emotionally ready for a child and committed to each other? If your relationship's not already strong, a baby won't make it stronger, it will put more strain on it. If either one of you get stressed easily, this is not a good time. Children take a lot of time and patience. If you have a stable life in all aspects and you BOTH feel you're ready for a baby then go for it. But also be prepared for the what ifs. Having a baby doesn't always go according to plan. Be prepared to love him/her with all your hearts no matter what and be prepared to devote every waking minute to them. If you think you can do that, then go for it!
2006-12-04 16:59:29 · answer #1 · answered by InternetJunkie83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may never feel ready, or both of you might not feel ready at the same time. People say things like "I need to be more financially stable" or "Wait until we get a house". When it comes down to it, if you know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, a child will just add more to that bond between the two of you. Also, just b/c you decide it's time, it doesn't mean it will happen right away.
2006-12-04 15:02:27 · answer #2 · answered by Hannah M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when your waters break its time to have your baby... jokes....
when my partner and i found out we were expecting both times we had not planned for it but it can be easy to prepare.
like maybe start by allocating money every week and budgeting so by the time baby comes you know how much money you have for bills, baby , shopping etc... one thing i found really helpful was being a bit more wise with money!.
also maybe preparing nursery. work out a time to start taking time off work once you are pregnant. ( maybe a month before you are due)....
i'm not really sure. we had lots of help with family.the only thing we really had to get used to was having a new baby in the house!
you will know when u are ready for a baby! even if your not sure you might be suprised just how ready you are when you find out your pregnant!!!
good luck i dont know if i helped at all but i tried
2006-12-04 15:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone is every REALLY ready to have a child. I think we should do our best to be financially stable and be in a solid, monogamist relationship. Children do complicate things even though the blessing far outweighs the negatives.
All in all, if you can plan it, prepare yourself well. If not, "oh well!"
2006-12-04 15:02:52 · answer #4 · answered by Luckiest_Wife_EVER 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no one is ever really ready to have a child. doesn't matter if you're young, if you're old, if you finished school. it's nice to have finished school and have a job and all that good stuff but even if you didn't finish school or have a good job you can still finish school and get a good job but there's never a time when you're ready. unless you can define what ''ready'' is i don't think it matters. regardless when you have the baby it's always going to be hard and a struggle but as long as you have the support you need you'll do fine. &if you're going to be a single mother it'll be hard but you'll manage. good luck!
2006-12-04 15:23:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
anyone can father a child,but it takes a real man to be the Daddy.if you are chicken you are not ready because this is not a dare or do or die thing,this a living breathing human being with your blood flowing through it.to me it was the most emotional thing i have ever seen and the bonding is like none other,and i mean i saw,like in that i was in the delivery room the whole time.mother-baby-doctor-nurse and then into my arms.my son is in his 30's and i still cry when he leaves after a visit and he goes home to his family of five.
2006-12-04 15:18:29 · answer #6 · answered by m.w.meredith@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got pregnant when i was 24 and i didnt think i was ready (it wasnt planned, obviously). i was scared at first because although i didnt think i was ready, i wasnt going to have an abortion or give it up for adoption. the further along i got, the more ready i felt. my son is now 3 and a half months old and i wouldnt give him back for anything in the world. i know people are different, but youll ultimately know if you are really ready or not.
2006-12-04 15:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, I knew when I met my husband that he was great with kids. I wasn't even thinking about kids, but I was born with a motherly instinct that neither my mother or sister has. Nobody is truly ready to have kids, life comes at you fast, and you need to take the good with the bad. It's like boot camp. hardly any sleep. Getting up 10 times in the middle of the night. It's hard, but when you get pregnant you ask for it. I love having my children, it's very hard, and nobody understands it, unless they have children of their own.
2006-12-04 15:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to be with someone you trully love a lot. You should have a decent income. The both of you should be interested in it. Many people discuss having a child when they decide they want one. Also the both of you should realize what is ahead of you and be mature enough.
2006-12-04 14:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by tia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be able to afford the child and ready to commit for a lifetime. If this doesn't scare one or both of you, you may be ready.
I don't recommend it before the age of 25.
2006-12-04 15:06:03 · answer #10 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋