Thanks?
And when do you stop worrying?
2006-12-04 14:56:06 · 11 answers · asked by LAUGHING MAGPIE 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
You never stop worrying. I just received this email that explains it all.......
WORRY
Is there a magic cutoff period when offspring become accountable for their own actions? Is there a wonderful moment when parents can become detached spectators in the lives of their children and shrug, "It's their life," and feel nothing?
When I was in my twenties, I stood in a hospital corridor waiting for doctors to put a few stitches in my son's head. I asked, "When do you stop worrying?" The nurse said, "When they get out of the accident stage." My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my thirties, I sat on a little chair in a classroom and heard how one of my children talked incessantly, disrupted the class, and was headed for a career making license plates. As if to read my mind, a teacher said, "Don't worry, they all go through this stage and then you can sit back, relax and enjoy them." My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.
When I was in my forties, I spent a lifetime waiting for the phone to ring, the cars to come home, the front door to open. A friend said, "They're trying to find themselves. Don't worry, in a few years, you can stop worrying.They'll be adults." My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing.
By the time I was 50, I was sick & tired of being vulnerable. I was still worrying over my children, but there was a new wrinkle. There was nothing I could do about it. My mother just smiled faintly and said nothing. I continued to anguish over their failures, be tormented by their frustrations and absorbed in their disappointments.
My friends said that when my kids got married I could stop worrying and lead my own life. I wanted to believe that, but I was haunted by my mother's warm smile and her occasional, "You look pale. Are you all right?
Call me the minute you get home. Are you depressed about something?"
Can it be that parents are sentenced to a lifetime of worry? Is concern for one another handed down like a torch to blaze the trail of human frailties and the fears o f the unknown? Is concern a curse or is it a virtue that elevates us to the highest form of life?
One of my children became quite irritable recently, saying to me, "Where were you?
I've been calling for 3 days, and no one answered I was worried."
I smiled a warm smile.
The torch has been passed.
PASS IT ON TO OTHER PARENTS (and also to your children. That's the fun part)
We can do no great things - only small things with great love."
2006-12-04 15:06:22 · answer #1 · answered by c0mplicated_s0ul 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well the truth is we never stop worrying. I think the key is not to "obsess" Harmless worrying is one thing, "Oh will the kids make fun of him? Will her heart be broken? Will he pass that test? Will he resist temptation?"
But to obsess and stress is another. My parents call me on a weekly basis to "check in" and I think I will probably do the same. It's apart of the parenting plan. And if we didn't worry...we wouldn't care!
And caring parents raise caring people. So worry away. your children deserve it!
2006-12-04 23:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by sincerelysarah117 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Never ever ever! My son is 11 and it just gets worse as the years go on. We have had "THE TALK" several times, and as embarrassing as it is for me, I know I have to power thru it b/c I want him to know he can come to me with anything. I worry about him liking girls (yeah, he tells me Beyonce is hot, and that's his woman!), and these hussies, I mean, little girls, liking him. Being a mother is both the most wonderful and most awful thing ever! I don't know anything else in the world that causes so much stress and love/joy at the same time!
2006-12-04 23:11:27 · answer #3 · answered by cute_niss 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the worrying will never ever stop honestly they could be 40 and youll still worry but i guess thats part of bein a parent
2006-12-04 23:12:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Isn't being a mom the hardest job you've ever had?!
I worry all of the time................am I doing this right, am I doing that wrong, will the bully at school pick on my kid, will my kid be the bully and well the list goes on an on and on.
2006-12-04 23:05:11 · answer #5 · answered by Beatlegirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! they will always be your baby no matter the age! never be leaved my mom until i had my 3!! they are 8,6,&2 and i always worrie about them, but i think it's just a sigh of a good loveing mom!! i also love this site! helps answer questions so your family dosn't think your nuts!!!! and you know you are not the only one w/ your problem!!!
2006-12-04 23:15:00 · answer #6 · answered by rblankenship_rblankenship 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never, even when they are grown and out of your house you will worry.
2006-12-04 23:48:52 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Woman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying? I don't think it ever stops ^__^
2006-12-04 23:29:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sirius's Mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a mother's job is never done, and one of those duties is worrying.
2006-12-04 23:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
never, i still worry about my teen kids as well as my unborn one and apparently my dad still worries about me sometimes and he's frikkin OLDDDDDDDDDDDD (60)
2006-12-04 22:58:44 · answer #10 · answered by nanabooboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋