I asked a girl at work to have coffee with me. She said she'll get back to me, but no reply so far. I sent her an email, again no reply. I have taken the hint.
But we are in the same office, how should I react when I see her within the office? Is it ok to just put your head down and keep walking?
2006-12-04 14:45:48 · 16 answers · asked by Worrier 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't put your head down!!!! Keep it up and look her straight in the face. This will really bother her and, I bet that she will come to you and ask about going for coffee. Good Luck!!!!!
2006-12-04 14:49:03 · answer #1 · answered by PHAT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No No No
It is not okay to do that. I know it may feel a little uncomfortable - but you have to let it go and make sure it is clear that it doenst bother you (even though I am sure it does and would bother me too). I know it is so much easier for me to say that, but really - she probably feels a little uncomfortable too (if she is a decent person, she wouldnt want to hurt your feelings even though she isnt interested). Just try to act normal, I think you will be surprised that in the end, it will make the situation easier since you are in the same office (which is probably why the say you arent supposed to date coworkers). One thing, when you asked her to coffee, was it clear that you were really interested in her or could it now be interpreted to be just coffee? In which case, you would definitely not have to act differently or avoid her. There could have been something else completely that you wanted to talk to her about and now it is her loss that she doesnt want to sit down with you. Now she will never know what it was...
2006-12-04 22:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by Smiles :) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Act like as if you are normal. No, it's not ok to put your head down and keep walking. She was rude, not you. Just move on. Maybe she doesn't like you or maybe there's some other reason she won't get back to you or have coffee with you. There's lots of things it could be. Ask someone else out. Get on with your life.
2006-12-04 22:49:06 · answer #3 · answered by Tavita 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want to look defeated then yes.... but you sound like a pretty good guy so don't let her get to you. It is her loss. This office is not just her territory, it is yours too so don't back down and look away that will just give her power over you. Look her in the eyes (not shoes) when you have to see her.... it'll show that you are confident and that her being flaky had no inherent effect on you.
2006-12-04 22:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by blackbeltbabe88 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not react to it in any way. She is not interested in you romantically (as she wasn't before) and it's not to be treated any differently than if she said she liked tea but not coffee. Nothing has changed and you can still be friends and coworkers.
Any negative reaction to what happened by either of you would be unprofessional and immature.
2006-12-04 22:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by Mark D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't put your head down. You have nothing to embarrassed about. Definitely keep walking. Whatever you do don't ask her again. Pretend like she doesn't exist and find little ways to blow her off ... subtle ways.
2006-12-04 22:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Chrissy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be much more excited around everyone now more than ever.. don't make her believe she impacted you to be down all day long.. happiness is much more attractive than moping and feeling sad all day! Maybe she has a lot going on right now and so just be jolly !!!
2006-12-04 22:50:11 · answer #7 · answered by jmilil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She does not like you! You better off moving on! No be a man and raise you head up high and don't let it get to you! She is rude for not giving you a chance you need to be strong!
2006-12-04 22:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO ! absolutely not to do that.
just bear in ur mind that it is not wrong trying.no one will found their love of live if they don't want to try.give her some times or maybe she's not the one for u.relax urself and try to focus on ur work,then u will automatically treat her the as u treat others.
2006-12-04 23:10:08 · answer #9 · answered by tumitkekure 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, that blows. No, act totally casual. If some random dude couldn't do coffee, how would you act? Do the same for her.
2006-12-04 22:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋