How does one handle a situation where the son licving in America is non communicative.?

Question

Phone calls,and E-mail get sparce results? Open to any suggestions.Desperate mom

Answer 1

Relax - that's what hapens when young guys go to Amrica, I would know because I did, and it's what happened. There is so much to see and do, so many people to meet, so much stuff to take care of, so much reality to deal with. Give him some time, it took me months before I realized there was a world with people in it who cared about me back home. Please understand, it's all exciting, new, and great - he's just too busy now. But once things have settled down, you'll be inundated in mails and contact.

On the other hand, if he has been there long, and still not communicating much, it could be that things are difficult for him. This may have to do with his perception of what his family back home may expect of him and his new life. Could it be that he feels that he hasn't got all to show for himself which he thinks you would want him to be able to? Is he trying to save you a disappointment? I would know about these things, because I also went off to America proclaiming great things, and the reality was so much less forthcoming.

You may have to surprise him with a visit. How about that?

Answer 2

I'm a teenager and I'm very shy. For your case, the kid is not uncommunicative, he just doesn't find it interesting to talk to the people that are around him and he is not motivated enough to loook for others, in that case he might be doing alot with his computer/books. Don't force him to meet people, he won't like it, you might try to bring people to him (invite over a friend with their kid). In either case, his type of personality should be good at communicating with more mature people - older kids, adults.
Hope this helps.

Answer 3

I wouldn't think where someone is living would have anything to do with a child being no-communicative with their parent, I would think it would have to do with the relationship itself. Without knowing more about the relationship, there's not much I can say to advise. I do know that no matter where on this planet my parents lived, I'd talk to them on a regular basis.