he is just nine and im in a tight spot how to deal with this.he wants to argue and glued to t.v. should i seek counselling for him.
2006-12-04 14:38:46 · 15 answers · asked by tina 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
First: Turn OFF the TV. Seriously, go over unplug or saw off the cord!
Second: start really hitting the learning toys, hard! No video games.
You are the parent here, not him. he is 9, of course he wants the world the way he sees it. Guess what you are in charge, and he needs to know it.
Sit down, talk, he will throw a fit at first. Stay your ground. He does this to get his way. He is deffinitely old enough to reason, old enough to know better. YOu have to reparent. Reconnect.
If he is agressive it is time to reconnect. Sometimes this shows its head:Dissociative Dissorder. There are some great therapies out there to help reconnect. One is to be next to your child non stop (with the exception of the Loo etc.) Look into their eyes, have them do the same. Sit next to eachother, hold him on your lap, talk about your days. He will resist and it may sound odd, but alot of kids who are acting out simply do it to get attention, show that you want to give attention for the good things. Positive reinforcement will come later, first you have to set the boundaries.
I Hope This Helps,
Amy
2006-12-04 14:46:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all turn OFF the television. It's really not that difficult. Secondly when you turn it off and he starts to argue let him argue...keep it off That's WHY he is hyper and resltless he doesn't have an outlet for his energy. Turn off the televeision and if you have to TAKE him outside, go to a play ground and toss a baseball around, shoot basketball hoops with him. Take him to a sports store and purchase inexepsive tennis racquets and some balls and go hit a few. Toss a football. BOTH of you will get exercise and spend quality time together all for the cost of what it takes to get you there.
2006-12-04 14:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how does your son sleep at night? does he snore?
if he does have his tonsils checked to see if they are enlarged.
they say this will cause hyper activity in children because they don't get the proper rest they need because they cant breath well at night
serioiusly my three year old son is havin his removed wed. and he has alot of same symptoms
he is very hyper active he dont listen
he also has night terrors and alot of earaches
all because his tonsils are enlarged
good luck to you
many add and adhd cases are mis diagnosed because tonsils and adnoids are enlarged and once removed the child calms down and changes tremendously
please have these checked before you let a doctor dope your kid up
2006-12-04 15:25:03 · answer #3 · answered by angie c 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most likley you need to take a hand on the situation and punish him instead of just letting him argue with you and be rewarded with television. His lack of concentration may be due to some early signs of ADD.
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2006-12-04 15:07:31 · answer #4 · answered by Ale[x]andra Aristocrat 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent so you need to set rules and stick to them. Make consequences if he doesn't follow your rules. Give a time slot each day (an hour max) where he can watch TV. He doesn't need counseling, he just needs boundaries and guidelines.
2006-12-04 14:44:53 · answer #5 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this must be hard to hear but he may have A.D.H.D attention deficit disorder but you need not to loose heart you just need to shift your way of up bringing and do not pressure him. we live in a very competitive world and i know it will be hard for you not to compare but believe me he is a gifted individual you just need to find the right school for him where teacher are trained to handle kids who are hyper and also get education regarding how you can help him at home as well. i hope this helps ... May God smile upon you and your son
2006-12-04 15:53:08 · answer #6 · answered by TARIQ F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him tested for A.D.D. or A.D.H.D. your doctor can recommend where he came be tested. You may want to enroll him at the Y.M.C.A., your local Boys and Girls Club also some martial arts. Martial Arts teach you self -control and discipline. This one helped with my A.D.H.D. daughter. She is no longer on medicine for it. Good Luck, you'll make it through it I did.
2006-12-04 20:32:43 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat1640 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
counseling and meds ahouls be a last resort. limit his tv use, encourage him to make friends. don't argue with him, because as his parent, you are the boss. help him with his homework, try to make it fun for him, and try not to get too frustrated.
2006-12-04 14:44:19 · answer #8 · answered by auntnebakenezer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like ADHD. You may try counselling and medication
2006-12-04 14:47:31 · answer #9 · answered by warpath1979 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sounds like he might have ADHD. take him to your doctor for testing. there are a ton of medicines on the market now to help him.
2006-12-05 02:00:04 · answer #10 · answered by kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋