ok, so i have this bf. and i REALY like him i do a lot, but i just met my BEST FRIENDS boyfriend and i think im falling for him. we like the EXACT same music basically, we have pretty dam close personalities (both indie rockish) and idk i kinda feel an attraction. but obviously he is dating my best friend and if i break up with my bf not only am i left with no one, ill totally break his heart. i need help!!!
2006-12-04 14:28:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay so... I've been in this sitation as well... I was dating someone .. and my friend was dating.. her boyfriend.. and me and him got close.. and he told me.. if she ever cheated... that... He made me promise to tell, now.. I hate to lie.. Im against it.. the worst thing you could possibly do is lie to me, and I dont like when others lie either.. so.... she cheated... i didnt know what to do.. because i liked the guy she was dating... and I didnt wanna do it... so ... my friend cassandra at the time found out and liked the same guy... and... she told him.. and he broke it off with his gf...9 my friend and then I asked her if it would be okay if me and him went out.. and of course it wasnt.. but she said it was so... stupid me dated him.. hot my friend mad at me as well as my other friend and then... the ****** broke it off with me on my bday... because of his friend... alex.. was being a jerk to me so I was being one back... but I didnt know what to do in this situation... and u know... Oh and then another situation... Uhm.. I was datin my ex boyfriend richard.. and I liked this guy named... aaron( total player, leads u on, hes so sweet and funny though me and him got super close) anyhow Uhm richard totally treated me like an asshole I dont regret dating him though, just gives me more of an output on how some guys can act and makes me learn from it.. so I used that.. and didnt waste the information.. so anyhow... I dumped richard.... for aaron... ai LIKED richard but he messed with my mood.. like I'd be all lovey dovey wanting his attention and he would ignore me.. n... so eventually I broke up with him.. expecting to date aaron... and.. well.. oh aaron is like okay.. were gonna date... we didnt date.. .. like he told me he loved me (not that I believed it) and then the next day went back out with his ex.. because she lived closer and... he still liked her.. so stupid... me.. when they broke up.. he promised to date me again... then ****ed me over again.... then.. he came back to me after they broke up... and tried it again... and this time.. I played with his head.... but Like... if it were me... in ur position..its not worth... messing up your friendship over a guy... not only that... he could.. do the same thing.. the guy did with me... and seriously hurt u.. so Unless ur sure u wanna do it.. then ... dont do it.. cause... that could not only mess up ever getting chances with ur ex... and with the other guy.. and with your friend... so from experience... dont leave the guy who u like/love for a guy who u think u might like better... cause... you end up getting ****** over and left with no one.( in my case though that was better) (go back to ex bf who ***** with emotions or... go with player/ cheater guy) I think staying single would be good lol anyhow I hope I helped
2006-12-04 14:40:01 · answer #1 · answered by beth 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to realize that the grass is not really greener on the other side of the fence. Not only are you in a relationship, but so is your friends BF. Do you want to be a home wrecker? Just be glad with the man you have and leave it at that. Just liking the same music doesn't make two people compatible. Everyone just wants to be loved, and it sounds like you were happy with your BF before you met your friend's BF. Just forget about him and be thankful for the one you have if you like him. It will hurt all of you if you start mixing things up. Good night!
2006-12-04 22:35:51 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The fact that you're falling for your friend's boy friend shows that you're getting bored with ur own. It means it is time to break off. Dont hold on to a person for sympathy. Trust me, if you're really sympathetic, tell him that it is over and move on with your life(which defly does not include running after your friend's BF). Come one, you should know better than to wreck her happiness for no reason. There are other fish in the sea.
2006-12-04 22:33:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes you so certain this guy likes you and would dump his gf for you????? You obviously suck at being a gf and a friend! I wish your friend knew what the hell you were doing. If she was really your best friend you wouldn't even be thinking this BS. That's really crappy. I hope your bf dumps you before you get the chance to dump him. Also that he goes after your sister or cousin or someone as equally close to you so you understand how crappy you are. Try to grow up sometime soon and pick up some morals along the way.
2006-12-04 22:34:37 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Crazy girl! don't go for your best friend's boyfriend! are you crazy? they are together, so leave them alone. If you break them up, you will lose your best friend & she will beat you up. The #1 girlfriend's rule is that you should never go after your friends boyfriends. Get your own boyfriend, better yet....keep the one you already have.
You are a selfish, heartless, B*tch if you do this. I would not want to be your friend if you were trying to steal my boyfriend. You deserve no one if you steal your best friend's boyfriend.
2006-12-04 22:36:18 · answer #5 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends boyfriends are definitely off limits!! Don't do it, it will only cause drama and not only will you hurt your bf but also your friend, there are plenty other guys out there. If your bored with your man find someone else but don't go for hers!
2006-12-04 22:32:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Argh, stop thinking of your best friend's boyfriend, focuz on your own boyfriend!! Try to keep your feelings under your control before it's too out of hand. It wouldn't be wise to ruin a great friendship over some guy, if you did, when you look back years later you would regret it.
2006-12-04 22:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by ItsNotEyeRaq 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stay with your current boyfriend
you have to ask yourself first, is your current BF like that ? what do you have in common ? on what level do you feel an attraction on your best friends BF
and then (if)/(when) they break it off, slowly let down your boyfriend and go for him
no sudden movements or it will be too obvious that you've liked him for a long time
trust me
2006-12-04 22:37:21 · answer #8 · answered by Nick723 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if you dont like your b.f anymore then break up with him because why do you need a boyfriend being single is the bomb! and well if you try to make a move on his best friend it might ruin the relationship and that is really bad im not ******* joking seriously!
2006-12-04 22:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't even think about it.
He is your best friend's boyfriend and therefore totally OFF-LIMITS. And if you can't get over him, you have no business having a boyfriend at all -- that's not fair for the guy you're dating.
2006-12-04 22:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by wnk 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Back off now!! Or you will lose your best friend forever! Just stay away from him for a while and it will go away.
2006-12-04 22:31:32 · answer #11 · answered by Smiley 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋