I'm too ugly to get a woman to date me.?

Question

I'm slightly overweight and "challenged" in the looks department. Unlike most I don't have a great job. I'm really ashamed of my looks that nature gave me. I'm not deformed by any means but women don't seem to be attracted to me. I don't have anything to work with to enhance upon with the proper clothing or such crap like that. I don't have smooth charm or anything either I'm a friggin wreck at 34 yrs old with unusually young features I just can't get hints from women nor do I understand body language either. Every woman I meet wants to be my friend cos' I'm funny but I get the gist thats all they want? I want to pull my hair out!

Answer 1

I assure you most sincerely, that there are very many women out there that would gladly go out with you. Any man who would treat a woman decently can get as many dates as he wants. Stop being so self-conscious.

Be clean. Dress as well as you can. Be comfortable. Be personable. And yes, make us laugh. And then follow through. Instead of deciding that it is "all we want", give us the chance to make that decision. ASK. You may be disappointed a couple of times. But not as often as your low self-esteem is leading you to expect. I GUARANTEE it.

Answer 2

most likely the guys you come in contact with muscles are not very mature or are very arrogant. . a lot of people in general let physical characteristics, jobs, etc. define who they are. I think every single girl that I have dated said they were never interested in a guy with large muscle until they meet me. but I am not the typical muscle head either. I cover up and wear baggy clothing, I don't take my shirt off every possible chance I get to show off my body, I'm the exact opposite. I hate people looking at me and making comments about my physique. I don't think I've worn a tank top in public since '87 and I never talk about the gym or fitness unless someone else asks me a question. It's what I do to help earn a living, it's not who I am.

Answer 3

34 years old is still young. get in shape. it's good for you and it may attract other women because it shows them that you can take care of yourself. also, your looks don't matter. just dress probably and keep a clean look. it's a good thing you're funny. anyway, you never know if your friendships will become more than that. so don't give up. and you'll know if someone likes you back. anyway, there's nothing wrong with being single! singlehood is something to treasure. goodluck.

Answer 4

Hit the gym! One you'll meet people, you'll loose some weight, and you'll feel great about yourself in the end. People can pick up on bad vibes like low self esteem, so if you feel bad inside, it'll make you look bad on the outside. So try feeling more confident about yourself. Take walks at a public place and smile as you go! Smiles are VERY contaigous. Say hello to a woman passing by you. Outward appearances aren't always everything. But personality is! Good luck!

Answer 5

If you aren't happy with you, you ptroject that. Why would anyone else like you if you don't?
Find something you are good at and excel at it. Work with what you have and don't look at the negative.
There is someone for everyone in this world. Geez.........I've had 15 or 20 so far!

Have fun!

Answer 6

Well, change your look, a slight makeover might do the trick. Start an exercise program, once you loose those extra pounds your whole physique is going to change, and this is just an option, if you feel happy with your weight then don't change it...you should join a matching site that can help you find a match. Many people have done it and have been successful. Good luck! Don't worry too much about this....it is OK to be single. You will find someone eventually. There are older people out there that are single...the trick is not to think about it too much. I am 37, good looking and single! If i would have pulled my hair i would be bald by now.

Answer 7

Make your New Year's Resolution(s) based on going to the gym, taking the time out to spend a little bit of time on making yourself look better. When you're talking to a girl bring up a topic that the two of you can talk about, not just one that you can talk about. Ask her what she's interested and what her future goals and aspirations are. But don't be weird and funny about it. Ask her what her childhood dreams were, ask her about her favorite foods, talk with (not to) her about movies. Just try being that guy that's different than all of the other blockheads she's dated. Show her everything that every other guy didn't.

And there's nothing wrong with being friends with a girl, because you have to be friends before you get into a relationship with her, don't ya?

Answer 8

There is no such thing as ugly people. They don't exist. So get that whole idea out of your head. There's people that take care of themselves and people that don't. That's it.

I think your problem is psychological. You have a low self-esteem which decreases your confidence. Confident people attract women. If, however, you're not confident then you won't try or you won't try as well as you should because you don't think the girl can ever show interest in you in return. But guess what? They will.

Act hot and you are hot.

That's all there is to it. And again, NO ONE IS UGLY! ever. If you think you are ugly, then take better care of yourself. And that's it.

Best of luck :-)

Answer 9

Some woman do pick up men based on looks- but not most. Everyone else is right! Confidence is key... it's all in the way you present yourself. I knew this guy (i even dated him) that was not at all very appealing- he was grossly overweight, balding, and acted like a twenty year old when he was actually closer to forty! But he got all the girls- even really beautiful woman. Why? Because he had a great personality, he believed in himself, and he came across as a very confident man. I know confidence is hard t come across, but just remind yourself that you are a cool guy, maybe even get some counseling because if u act like a loser- you'll feel like a loser.

Answer 10

Why don't you start exercising. Maybe join some martial arts to get confidence. Women don't care that much about looks. Having a better job would help, but the fact is they can smell your "fear of rejection" and "insecurity" a mile away. It's a big turn off.