Love or obsession?

Question

I think about her every second of the day,
she means more than anything else in the world, i cant imagine her not being here.
I ride the bus with her everyday because that is my favourite time of the day,
I want to skip christmas and christmas holidays and go to school instead just so i can be with her for that 40 minutes of the day.
some days she makes me feel like crap but its worth it because im with her,
she has heart problems, i would give her mine in a second if she needed it.
i am willing to die for her,

no im not dating her, shes my bestfriend though.

Im in the "friend zone" =(

Answer 1

Actually, it is still love, because you two are friends and I would presume you don't dislike each other and you don't feel neutral toward each other, but I'll ignore that technicality.

I'm a psychology student so forgive me if I go overboard here, but there's this triangular theory that dictates that there are three aspects to what we call love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. If you have passion alone it's infatuation, intimacy alone is liking, and commitment alone is considered empty love. Romantic love is passion and intimacy together, fatuous love is passion and commitment, and companionate love is intimacy and commitment. Cosummate love is when all three are achieved in the relationship. It depends on your relationship with her, but I wouldn't say it's obsession or infatuation. I'd say it's either companionate love, which is what happens between a lot of friends and I would know about personally, or possibly cosummate if you feel an actual physical attraction to her.

Hope things work out for the best between you two. :]

EDIT: I don't know if you're the poetry type of guy or if she's that type of girl, but I think if you want a subtle way of winning her over without sounding crazy or risking the friendship might be to send her this poem, especially on a day when she's feeling down.
Witch-Wife by Edna St. Vincent Millay (yes, this was written by a woman but it's from the perspective of a man, even though she was bisexual)
She is neither pink nor pale,
And she never will be all mine;
She learned her hands in a fairy-tale,
And her mouth on a valentine.
She has more hair than she needs;
In the sun 'tis a woe to me!
And her voice is a string of colored beads,
Or steps leading into the sea.
She loves me all that she can,
And her ways to my ways resign;
But she was not made for any man,
And she never will be all mine.

Answer 2

Love on your part, I think, but without her feeling the same way about you, you're moving into the obsessive infatuation zone. The best thing you can do is work on becoming a friend to her. Let her know you care, let her know that if she needs someone to talk to, she can talk to you. Don't try and be with her all the time, or crowd her. That's scarey for anyone.
She may have problems or situations she's dealing with that are much more important to her than your company. Respect her time and space.
Treasure the 40 minutes you can share with her---time shared, even in quiet, can give you some of life's best moments. Even if she may not or doesn't want to feel the same about you, hold her in your thoughts with tenderness.
Finally, don't be so eager to die for her. That situation doesn't come up that often. Live so that you can become someone she can trust and believe in.
God bless the both of you.

Answer 3

Have to let you in on a cosmic secret. You never know if you're in love until you start living with the person. If your feelings for her continue to be so after you've lived with her for about a year or two, then it deserves to be called love/obssesion. Until then, enjoy the 40 min ride, but dont worry abt what it means.

Answer 4

You are obsessed my friend. You feelings are very deep but you could smother her with just words. Take a breath, slow down...she will respect you more if you are just her friend for now and then maybe it will grow into something more. You would be much more interesting to a girl if you shared your hobbies and activities with her...and find out what she likes. Talk to her...do not rush! Have a nice time but take time for yourself...

Answer 5

You have a crush on her! Stop going crazy and approach her, talk to her and ask her out. If she says no, let it go. If she says yes, then there you have it...you can figure out the rest! Good luck!

Answer 6

Dude you love her. Keep being there for her.

Write her a letter of what you think of her. ( her personality and how you feel)

I hope everything works out.

Good Luck.

Answer 7

im in the same boat except the girl i know lives 4 long hours away
i think its love

Answer 8

Infatuation, definitely...obsession, probably. Love? Not likely.

Answer 9

thats sweet but love is a big word and an even stronger feeling

Answer 10

its cute u r willing to give ur life for her i think thats love

But if she doesnt like u its an obsession!