I'm 21 and is gf 20 we been known each other two 2yrs now things going well and we have future together now at the moment shes in hong kong because she went to see parents. Anyway last week went my friend's bday party, some girls were there that i dont even know them so one of girl approached me started talking, asked for dance so i dont refused. At the end of party i gave her lift to her home and she invited me go inside her house but i rejected it and took my number. next morning he text me asking me go her house for dinner so i did as friend i thought. After dinner she gave me drink but i dont know she sleepy tabet so got up morning with no clothes and found her next to me in bed with no clothes as well then woke her up and asked wats this, she said'' well we had good time and she said i was great in bed'' so suddenly just left her home.She still text me and call me saying that she wants be my bf even though got gf. Honesty i dont know wat to do, how tell my gf about this. Advice
2006-12-04 14:01:39 · 29 answers · asked by jack k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Whether she put a tablet in it or not....you should have not went to her house.....you need to be honest with your girlfriend_
2006-12-04 14:05:13 · answer #1 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming this is the truth... Let's flip this around. Your girlfriend went to a party. A guy slipped something in her drink and raped her. Did she cheat on you?
No, you didn't cheat on her. You were raped. Call the police. Tell your girlfriend but you better approach it right. Turn on the water works. You were a victim. Ask her for forgiveness and tell her that she means more to you than anything. Make sure you make it clear how ashamed and awful and violated you feel. Don't defend yourself. Your gf needs to emote (relate to your predicament). If you say it wasn't your fault then you are taking charge. You need to show how helpless you were. Ask for forgiveness until you are blue in the face. You make sure your gf is the one that tells you that it wasn't your fault.
Seriously call the police on this chick.
Isn't it funny how the women here are telling you that you were stupid by going. You just know that if this happened to a girl they wouldn't call her stupid. Sexist a bit ladies?
2006-12-04 14:12:26 · answer #2 · answered by SmartAlex 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why were you being so friendly with this other girl? Now look what you have done. YES you have cheated. Better tell your gf and see what she thinks. If I was in her place I would consider that you did not intend to cheat, but because of the fact that you did, I would leave you.
2006-12-04 15:00:14 · answer #3 · answered by Black 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First and foremost is that she drugged and raped you dude! This is a criminal matter. Just think of which police cell you might be sitting in now had the shoe been on the other foot!
No, you shouldn't have gone to her house in the first instance, but it sounds like there has been some naivety on your part about going there. Talk to your girlfriend about it, be honest, admit to her that going there was the wrong thing and if you honestly didn't realise going there was the wrong thing to do then learn from this one!!! But remember that the other girl has done the wrong thing, and just because you're male doesn't mean its okay!
Just read back over some comments then and noticed yours "SmartAlex". We are of the same thinking. I cant believe no-one else has picked up on the fact this guy was raped!!!
2006-12-04 14:20:46 · answer #4 · answered by Flumma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey there...
this isnt easy to hear, but here it goes...
you cheated the moment you accepted a dance.
you cheated when you gave her your number
you cheated when you went to the other woman's house for dinner
and because you did all those things, you sent the message that you were single, hence why you woke up naked.
i know that from the outside view, a dance can seem harmless, but sometimes thats all it takes to get the wrong kind of attention.
you have to tell your girlfriend if you truly value her feelings and really see a future together. if you hide it and it comes back to haunt you, kiss the future and any chance of a friendship with your girl goodbye - once hurt, trust is completely lost, and already it seems like you have broken it.
2006-12-05 12:22:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you exactly remember what happend? It seems that you truly do regret going to her house. You made a mistake, a bad one at that, but you are human, and hopefully you will learn from it. First of all, tell this girl that she should leave you alone because you have a girlfriend. Since you will never do this again (I hope), the best thing is, if you do not tell your girl friend. You are going to hurt her more than necessary. You already realized that you made a mistake. If you love your girl friend you should spare her from the pain and never ever ever get yourself into a situation like this again. If you believe in God, pray to be forgiven, but don't tell your girlfriend
2006-12-04 14:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you did not cheat on your gf. What you did is fine, you were horny, things happen. I'm sure your gf is in Hong Kong getting it put to her. You don't have a problem with that and she will not mind that you did the same.
just kidding, LOLOLOL
2006-12-04 14:07:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh yes - you cheated and if that is your story - you better come up with a new one before confessing to your girlfriend - I know I dont believe what you wrote - and she'd be crazy to believe it. And she knows you better than i do.......put it this way - she'll appreciate the truth more and respect you (maybe) if you tell the truth cause eventually you'll forget part of your lie. She will either get over it or she will get over you - good luck
2006-12-04 14:09:44 · answer #8 · answered by daybreakxoxo 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There are so many holes in this story it's hard to piece it together.
Your girlfriend may be your ex when she finds out about this.
Maybe after this you should find some new friends because the ones you have aren't good for you.
2006-12-04 14:07:06 · answer #9 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest and tell ur gf the truth that she drugged you and u didn't know what had happened until she told you the next morning and that u had refused to do any thing the day b4 also tell her that you got invited around for dinner thats y you were over there
2006-12-04 14:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by rk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in serious deep Sh*t dude!
Well, chances are she's probably giving you something. If not, you're probably remember doing her right?
I suggest you be honest with your GF, and hopefully she'll understand. If she doesn't, then I guess you'll learn from mistakes.
Good luck!
2006-12-04 14:05:12 · answer #11 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋