I think my fiance is jealous of my 16 year old son to a previous marriage who lives with me. He thinks I should basically just let my son fend for himself and says he's old enough to look after himself and thinks that all my attention needs to be on him and not my son at all. My fiance has a 9 year old daughter who he sees once a week and when she is 16 I will not have issues about him seeing his daughter and being involved in her life. What's going on here.?? Is this a typical sort of thing that happens?
2006-12-04 13:59:34 · 12 answers · asked by ysbiwg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No...
Not typical and he will make your life hell when you all live together.
I would find a more mature man... MAN... one who knows kids come first.
Seriously, that or just wait until your son is 18 to marry the guy. It's just 2 years away and it will make a world of difference.
2006-12-04 14:23:09 · answer #1 · answered by my-kids-mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not a typical situation. especially your fiance is a father and should know this. it's not fair for you to have to choose. this your son - and he comes first - at 16, he certainly is not old enough to fend for himself. you want him to grow into a responsible, mature, righteous person and that certainly takes your guidance until he gets there. he is only in his teens - a time when a child needs strong parental upbringing.
2006-12-04 14:23:18 · answer #2 · answered by try 2 help 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No...this is not typical, open your eyes....this is not normal behavior. I dont think he is jealous i think he is more selfish than anything else. He is overbearing and you need to be careful with this type of behavior, if you feel he is jealous about your son, what will happen once you marry this man? Please think this out carefully. This man should be there for your son and should be a part of his life if he loves you. Remember LOVE is not selfish ever!
2006-12-04 14:21:26 · answer #3 · answered by jayjay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he only sees his daughter once a week then that's sad. And if he is jealous of your son find out why? Your son is sixteen and almost out the house so why is your man tripping? Find out before it is to late.
2006-12-04 14:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tanya W 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey...i dont know how long youve been together but trust me ive been there i have 2 girls 9 and 11 years old. I was with this guy for 6yrs. and he has a son 11yrs. guess what! he wanted nothing to do with my girls as they got older. but his son could talk to him whenever. He never wanted me to pay attention to my girls because he wanted all the attention. It got so bad that my girls couldnt come and talk to me, give me hugs and kisses anything he would yell at them to go play or to go back into there room. They started to hate him. Of course I stayed with him(stupid) thinking i could change him. yes, we were even talking about getting married. until one day my girls told me they wanted to go live with there dad and their dad called and told me that he was taking me to court for custody. Well my eyes opened BIG and quickly i was not about to lose my girls for some selfish, inconsiderate, control frickin ass that is not even the father of my kids.
I could go on and on. My point is he is not jealous he is a selfish,inconsiderate, controlling ass and you are not going to change him its only going to get worse.
So your choices are either you stay with him and take a chance of ruining your relationship with your son over it(if he feels like my girls did they hated me for being with him) OR you can leave your fiance and take care of your son like he needs when he needs you. My boyfriend didnt see his son much either.(flippin jerk)
Best of Luck To Ya.
2006-12-04 15:01:35 · answer #5 · answered by smiley_1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear young Lady,
it looks to me like someone has double Standards,in my Opinion,find a other Man,yours seem to be selfish and inconsiderd,get away from hem,your Son is first,I think your Boyfriend is a Jerk,and it wont get any better,trust me,toss hem!
2006-12-04 14:09:12 · answer #6 · answered by karl s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think this is typical. Kids should not be left to fend for themselves, especially during their teen years. Family first....
2006-12-04 14:13:02 · answer #7 · answered by rng4alngtyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your fiance needs to grow up and accept ur son, if he plans on marrying u he needs to deal with it.
2006-12-04 14:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No matter what your son will be there and should come first. Most men do not understand that_
2006-12-04 14:01:56 · answer #9 · answered by Chickybabe 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your son is at the age where he probably needs you right now for guidence etc. why cant he see that. dont give up on him.
2006-12-05 11:13:03 · answer #10 · answered by Calais 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋