My 5 year old is constantly whining. Whining cause he wants something, whining that his sister said something to him, just whining about everythingI have tried the say it to me in a normal voice thing or I won't listen and it doesn't seem to help. I don't give in to him when he whines for things. But I am at my wits end and ready to pull my hair out because that constant whining. Does anyone have any suggestions to get him to stop. I will be eternally grateful for the person who gives me something that works. Thanks in advance.
2006-12-04 13:49:14 · 19 answers · asked by Answer Girl 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I should add he is my youngest. His sister is 11, and yes she does pick on him but still he doesn't have to friggen whine about it, lol Thanks for all your answers so far :)
2006-12-04 14:15:24 · update #1
This might sound silly, but why not hang up a "No Whining" sign or two in your home? That way, when he whines, you point to the sign and ask, "What's the rule?" So he gets the hint, you could hang another one or two that you ALL abide by like "Clean up after yourself" or "Help Each Other." This sets a good example. Good luck!
2006-12-04 13:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by WonderingWanderer 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, whining is awful. It becomes a habit with kids when they get attention for using it. Firstly, you need to respond immediately when you are asked a question. (five year olds ask a LOT of questions) This is if asked in a normal tone of voice. Answer no matter what, even if you are busy it can be, 'just a minute, I with answer you in a moment..) Then be sure you do.
Another hint is one I read here already- ignore the whining. I nipped the whining from my kids (my oldest was the worst) by first explaining that whining was unacceptable. Make sure they know what you mean. Now remember, it is a habit, and they won't stop right away. But the magic moment was when my daughter whined, and I answered her, "I can't understand you, all I hear is this whining sound!" She got the message. Good luck.
2006-12-05 04:50:22 · answer #2 · answered by propqueen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a 7 year old girl that just went through the same thing a couple of months ago. My mother-in-law suggested a "contract". I sat down and printed one out. In the contract I stated that if she would go for 2 days without whining she would move up to the next level. The next level was for 5 days then there was a reward in it for her. Then at the end of 10 days you go together and just have a day out for just the 2 of you(big boys and girls only). By the end of the month I saw such a change in her I was amazed. Make sure you explain how important this contract is to redeem her rewards. Both of you sign, if he is not able to write yet use stamps or stickers. One key thing is to always praise the good behavior. I hope this works for you like it did me. Good Luck!
2006-12-05 01:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never let him have his way when he whines, EVER! Even if he's hungry, let him know he can't have it until he stops whining, or just simply ignore him (if you can). And if he continues to whine the first time before being scolded, start punishing him. It might sound harsh but it's just like any other thing children do over and over that you have to consistently get after them for. And also make sure whoever else has them, dad, grandparents, aunts, make sure they are doing the same thing when he whines that you are doing, whether it's punishment or just ignoring him. He has to know he can't have his way when he whines.
2006-12-04 13:56:50 · answer #4 · answered by #1 Buckeye Fan!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 5 year old did the same thing and its just a stage he's going through. Whenever he starts to whine when he wants something or wants to tell you something just tell him that you do not talk to kids that whine and tell him to stop and that you will not listen to him until he does. I would ignore him until he would stop. When my son started school it got a lot better. Every so often he'll do it but its better now.
2006-12-04 15:08:07 · answer #5 · answered by girlygirl7951 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the sister picking on him? If so , you should stop that right away.
Did he start to school this year? Did the whinning start then?
He may need reassuring about something more important, but doesn't know how to tell you. It could just be a form of obtaining attention.
When he ask in a whinning voice, do as you are and ask him to repeat his question or statement in a non-whinning voice. Do the best you can to ignore any whinning that does not acquire prompt attention. Some children go through this and is a stage that will pass.
Good Luck
2006-12-04 15:01:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Good for you for not giving in to him. Make sure he understands that you will NEVER give in to him when he is whining. Tell him when he is whining, so he knows exactly what behaviour is unacceptable. When he whines, tell him to go whine in his room. If he wants to have a discussion, he can, but NO WHINING. Pretty soon, he'll get tired of being stuck in his room and will stop whining.
If you stick with it, he will hate going to his room and will stop whining.
best of luck.
Good luck. Whining is a drag.
2006-12-05 04:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by splatz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was that way when I was younger, and when I would whine my parents said I could have it (what I wanted) if I stopped. If I didn't like that they would send me to my room, and let me have a temper tantrum in their until I stopped.
If that doesn't work talk to him/her in an adult voice, and tell him that he needs to talk like that. Telll him he won't get what he wants that way, but asking for it will help (in a big girl/boy voice).
I hope it works! Good luck!:)
2006-12-04 14:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by pup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This may sound wierd but this is what i do to my nephew....whine back! he will find it so annoying that he will catch himself when he start. My nephew will whine "I want to lay on the couch....move" and I'll whine back "huh I was laying here i want lay on the couch" Yeah wierd i know but he has stopped ALOT! Good Luck!!!!
2006-12-04 14:00:31 · answer #9 · answered by the_one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, is he the oldest? he could be needing more attention from you or maybe you could get them both involved in an activity they both like so that you can give them both attention. maybe he could need some attention from the other parent. will he be attending school soon? if so, he may be feeling that seperation anxiety already and may need more interaction with kids his age to prep him for the transition to school. he may just change his energy from whining to interacting with others and not worry about "taddle-taling". hope you find your solution!
2006-12-04 13:57:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋