if he did'nt sleep with her and he was drunk....
keep in mind you love him and you have been with him a long time.
2006-12-04 13:35:27 · 35 answers · asked by browneyedgirl26 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
consider the circumstances
he's drunk and probably doesn't remember it.
also take into account his sincerity
2006-12-04 13:36:57 · answer #1 · answered by Your mother 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a very tough situation. It really depends on how strong you are. If you truly believe that he made an honest mistake and that it wouldn't happen again then stay with him. Sometimes it is the easiest way to solve the problem. A lot of people will tell you to leave him, straight up, but realistically, that is not as easy as it sounds. If you have been together for a really long time then leaving him would probably disrupt the homeostasis of both of you and would cause a lot of emotional and physical stress, in that case I would recommend staying with him (provided of course that you think he wouldn't do it again).
If you believe that your life with him can never be the same and that you would be okay and happy (in the long run) then leave him. He did a horrible thing, whether it was something as simple as a kiss. If he seems prone to do that sort of thing again, then you shouldn't give him another minute of your time. It's up to you.
Good luck, and I'm sorry that that happened.
2006-12-04 13:41:15 · answer #2 · answered by Lexie E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it. I know how you feel, know how hard it can be. But it will happen again, and the next time it will be worse, like your sister, neighbour, best friend or someone you work with -- or someone he works with! This 'slip' is a test -- only people who have major buried issues start pulling this sort of thing in a committed relationship. Once he learns he can get away with this, the rule book will go right out the window and he will take you for a real old-fashioned ride down abuse lane. It is not worth it.
2006-12-04 13:42:33 · answer #3 · answered by Katrine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been with my bf for 3 years, If i ever find out he has cheated on me I will kick his *** out that door so fast.
Once a cheater always a cheater, if they cant be happy with just the one person then how could you take them back?
There would be no point staying in a relationship with someone who does not love you like you love them, no matter how much it breaks your heart, you deserve better.
It would not matter if he has slept with her or not , there is such a thing as emotional cheating aswell. being drunk is not an accuse either. he knew he would be drinking ,he knew who would be there and why, if they can risk putting themselves in a situation with questionable people , then they are not really thinking of you, rather themselves.
2006-12-04 13:42:23 · answer #4 · answered by ros_0123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I agree with the phrase "once a cheater always a cheater". Being drunk was no excuse. If you buy that excuse once will you believe it the next time he uses it. Or what about the next excuse he comes up with. How much are you welling to let him getting away with? Think about it.
2006-12-04 13:56:41 · answer #5 · answered by shadowkat 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind! Did he keep you in mind when he was doing what ever it was with that other chick? NO! Come on girl! He was drunk! That is not an excuse! Are you really going to accept that crap from him? Bottom line is this, he did cause he wanted to and if you let him go this time he WILL do it again. Dont waste too much of your life on that loser!
2006-12-04 13:41:37 · answer #6 · answered by Topaz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all drunk is never an excuse. did he just make out or something? i dont know honestly i would like to say no i wouldnt take back a cheater but my bf has put me through so much **** and i keep taking him back but thats my own stupidity. i honestly think that if we didnt have children together i wouldve given up a long time ago. my advice (and i know i should take it myself) but dont waste your time being unhappy in love with someone whos doesnt honestly love and respect you. you deserve better
2006-12-04 13:39:28 · answer #7 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmmm I took back my cheater. I mean if he didn't sleep with her and he was drink and may did not remember. The person i took back drunk all the time and could not remember things he did while he was drunk. I mean he would wake up as a new person.
2006-12-04 13:40:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your position, since I don't like my man drunk, I would ditch him for being drunk in the first place. And to cheat on me whilst drunk is adding insult to injury.
But this is just me. Although if you're fine with the drunk bit, then perhaps you should give him a second chance and tell him its his very last chance.
2006-12-04 13:40:08 · answer #9 · answered by *~liYana~* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u really love him?would u do anything for him? if u do u have to consider was it just a one time accident or was it something that may happen again and come back and hurt you
you have to be careful with what u decide
personally i can say yes or no it depends on the person aand how their personality
what do u wnat?do u want to take him back?
2006-12-04 13:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by valerie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how much you feel you can trust him ... being drunk isn't an excuse ... he cheated ... (sleeping w/ someone isn't the only way to cheat) ... and if he loved you as much as you loved him well the question would be then would he forgive you?
2006-12-04 13:38:59 · answer #11 · answered by emnari 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋