So I found out my bf had cheated and wanted to give him a second chance...I had trouble getting past it so told him I would need him to call the girl (because they still are "friends") and have her tell me how many times it happened. To see if their answers matched up...he said he wouldn't do it. So this proves to me that it happened more than once. Not I left and was really upset and plan not to talk to him again...but I feel guilty bc I said I would try and then if I said that I should have forgiven him and let it go...right? I did not behave in a mature manner by basically storming out and I am mad that I behaved that way.
2006-12-04 13:34:28 · 24 answers · asked by pink 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What difference does it make if he was "honest" about cheating? The fact remains he cheated. Do you want to have a relationship with someone who "honestly" cheats?
Why shouldn't you be angry? Why shouldn't you walk out on him?
Forgive him, yes, but that doesn't mean you set yourself up to have him do it to you again. If your gut feeling is...he is lying about how often he has cheated you are probably right...do you really want to have a relationship with a person that thinks that little of you.
Don't doubt yourself!!!!!!
2006-12-04 13:41:07 · answer #1 · answered by dixiemade 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is hard to let the one you love go because of their cheating. You tried really hard to forgive and forget. Don't feel bad that in the long run you couldn't get over the hurt of his cheating. I have been there and done that. Cheating hurts! The hurt made you angry and invoked a strong emotion in you. Try learning from the experience and be a bit more watchful the next go around. Put this guy behind you and move on with your life. Tell yourself that this guy is now history.
2006-12-04 13:42:34 · answer #2 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter how many times. What matters is that he did it. If he still talks to her then it means more than he is letting on. Only you can deicde if you should stay with him or not. Me? Cheating is out of the question, no second chances. My policy is to never put yourself in a position to be suspected! My husband knows this and we understand each other. Obviously this guy doesn't feel the same way about you. You have to decide what's important for you. Is he that important to you? Or are you better than that?
2006-12-04 13:37:52 · answer #3 · answered by notblueatall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your going to keep this boyfriend you must check with your heart and ask this question...1 if i decide to keep this boyfriend will i be able to forgive him and not use his past mistakes against him ? 2 he cheated on me and will he cheat on me again?(once a cheater always a cheater).3 the pit of my stomach dosen't
right feel right(your instinct is trying to tell you something is wrong)...follow your instinct.4 what did that other girl have to offer
that i don't have...not.. love and take care of your self first. have him check out by doctor to see if he has any std's to make sure the other lady and him give an ugly present(that's if you are in physical relationship). well that my two cents worth. if you can't discuss this with your mom call Dr. Phil
2006-12-04 14:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pink: Go easy on yourself ! You had your trust violated by the guy and you reacted like most girls would do. Yes; dump him for this ill behaviour towards you - never reward a cheater, who lies about it too ! At least you didn't slap him for trying to further, deceive you. Plainly; if he loves you, he wouldn't of have cheated !!! Obviously he doesn't love you since he lied about the number of times. Going back to him might stifle the guilt but you will quite never be the same with him, again. Good luck to you, "pink" . There's always a better guy out there for you !
2006-12-04 13:45:55 · answer #5 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl...I think you are being way to hard on yourself when he's the one that cheated. So you said you would give him a second chance and it was too hard for you to move past it...so what?! What about him lying and deceiving you? He should be feeling guilty not you. You need to move on. He's not worth it.
2006-12-04 13:44:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry about your actions- it is his that are on trial here- you did the right thing no matter how you did it-- once a cheater, always a cheater- never forget it because it is true-- you just saved yourself from more grief --- say adios and move on--- there are a lot more guys out there-- try changin up the "type" you fall for- you may be just picking the bad boys...........
2006-12-04 13:39:10 · answer #7 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be mad at yourself.You were hurt and when we get hurt naturally we get angry.I don't think it is a wise idea to try continuing this relationship. If he wasn't willing to face up to what he did I'd saying he's hiding something. Move on and find someone you deserve and won't cheat on you.
Don't feel guilty either.It wasn't you who went wrong.
2006-12-04 13:41:04 · answer #8 · answered by tea cup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust is one of the most if not the most important blocks making the strong foundation of a viable and long lasting relationship with no trust there is no relationship... you are right and time will prove your correct decision made in his case....stick by your guns and let the right man find you.....
2006-12-04 13:39:51 · answer #9 · answered by chiefof nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's the 1 on the wrong side of the tracks, so why are you getting mad at yourself, you said you'd try, but it seems your the only 1 doing that
2006-12-04 13:38:39 · answer #10 · answered by Change 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋