I am often told that I am very beautiful.Although I do not describe myself that way ,when I go out in social settings I often feel over-looked, generally ignored. If I am beautiful as others say why do I have a hard time being approached by men? I am the one who always has to make the first social move.Any thoughts?
2006-12-04 13:05:16 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
My brother filled me in on this one. He says that many guys assume that a very beautiful woman is already "taken" so they don't try.
2006-12-04 16:48:03 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People are either approachable or not. I suspect you are not. Are you nervous? Do you keep your arms crossed in front of you? Do you avoid eye contact? The signals you send make all the difference. I have a married friend who is constantly asked out by waiters, store clerks, passers by, etc., because she sends out this "come hither" s. ignal. She always says "no" and then complains (brags) about how men just follow her around. I am married as well. And while people are always friendly, courteous, and kind, I don't send out those "I'm available" signals and, hence, don't have bragging rights to being badgered by men. While I don't send out the wrong signals, people do find me friendly and approachable. Try smiling and saying hello. There's few things more irritating than people who walk down the hall, avoid eye contact and won't acknowledge other peoples' presence and then complain that noone even says hello to them. You will not be approached if you are not approachable. Haven't you ever been around someone that didn't seem to want conversation? And by the way, beauty on the outside doesn't mean much if there's no beauty on the inside. Your outside should reflect your inside, not make it unimportant or unnecessary. Good luck.
2006-12-04 22:42:25 · answer #2 · answered by hairdvs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Assuming you are that beautiful, that would intimidate most guys...it's why you find yourself making the first move. You need to find a like individual...someone just as beautiful that will not be intimidated by you and things will work the way you expect. This beauty you are looking for, though, need not be necessarily physical....you might bump into an ordinary Joe that meets/exceeds your wildest expectations on the inside. Good luck.
2006-12-04 21:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Greenwood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever noticed in social situations that a lot of times it's the "crazy girls" - with lots of personality (maybe not as beautiful as you are) that get all the attention. Looks aren't everything - if you want to be noticed and not ignored - maybe you try developing your personality and being friendly - rather than sitting there saying "I'm beautiful - worship me."
2006-12-04 21:48:42 · answer #4 · answered by Karla R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone can be too beautiful. Most guys have learned that super-beautiful women don't take kindly to being approached, and that super-beautiful women more often than not have never had to learned to be nice/kind to men.
2006-12-04 21:09:47 · answer #5 · answered by Clown Knows 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just described me! I realized that I wasn't approachable ... I overthink things too much and as a result I hold back from having more fun. Too serious when out makes you intimidatable. I always find myself being left alone as everyones out dancing (with okay looking girls) . maybe men really are that insecure about being rejected.
2006-12-04 21:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by Barbie W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are above average attractive and men are intimidated by you. It may be that people can sense low confidence in you, your personality, your not relaxed, you feel ignored and people turn away from the negative feelings that you project.
2006-12-04 21:30:24 · answer #7 · answered by Dweet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have any problems.
2006-12-04 21:08:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋