How to make a chart to reward our kids when they behave well?

Question

We have 2 kids, 4 1/2 and almost 7 years old. We want to make a chart that shows the things they should do and give rewards after completing weekly, mothly,... How did you do it?
Sometimes the big one hits the small one, if he doesn´t hit, we want to reward that behavior.

Answer 1

Well, we don't have charts but we do have marble jars. My kids (9, 7, 4 yr old twins) Each have their own jar. When they do something good-like clean their room, or help me- they earn a marble or 2. When they do something bad-like hit or scratch- they loose a marble. Every two weeks is pay day. They exchange their marbles for money. Each marble is 25 cents. I encourage them to save their money but they really do enjoy going to the store and shopping with their own money.

Answer 2

Hi,
I have 4 children, ages 8,5,3, and 18 mos. That makes each chart a bit different considering the age differences here. I used different colored foam paper to draw out a graph with the days of the week listed, in order, across the top of the chart, and the "no-no's" listed down the left side of the chart. I purchased the foam paper from the dollar store. In the bottom right corner of the chart, I wrote down the abbreviations of each day of the week, in order. I used small peices of putty to attach the charts to a cork board. Each day, if/when one of our children does something that they know is unacceptable, then they find that item in the "no-no's" category, and place a large push pen beside it, and under that day of the week. They do the same for good deeds, but under the good deeds category. At the end of each day, the children reveiw their chart(s), and place a push pin on the abbreviated day, on the bottom right of the chart, if they have no no-no's marked off. At the end of each week, whatever child has every abbreviated day marked, stating that they were good that day, then they will be rewarded. Rewards vary by child. Our eight year old loves to have a friend come over or an extra 30 minutes of video game on the weekend. Our five year and 3 year old both love to earn an extra 30 minutes of tv on the weekend, a sunday matinee at the dollar theatre, or longer outdoor play if the weather permits. Ofcourse our 18 m/o hasnt a clue, but we are starting him off early!! This took about one month of very consistent "charting", to really get the kids to realize the "cause and affect" of their actions. When they do have weeks where they exhibit a lot of "ugly" behaviour, we do not take anything away, we just do not add any privilidges. They feel hurt by their own actions, and try harder next time.
I hope this helps you.
It has truly helped keep the peace in our home.
mamaofthesweetest4

Answer 3

I have three children. I've tried many different charts over the years and displayed them on the refrigerator. The chart that worked the best for me is "what Mom expects of me." Two of my children are school age 11 and 7 yrs. I track Monday - Friday in A.M. what is expected before the bus picks them up. ( make bed, brush teeth, get backpack/coat/shoes, 7:00 a.m. wait for bus.) This cuts down the a.m. chaos of rushing. They get a check mark in box when waiting for bus.

When they get home from school, they have another set of "what mom expects of me"
snack time,chores,homework,dinner,1 hour free time,bath ect....... At the end of the night before bed they get check marks in box for completion.

I also have a second chart, earning letters. Each letter stands for a different behavior. A=honest B=no hitting C=no name calling D=manners(thankyou,excuse me, saying I'm sorry ect..)
Whatever problem I have with the boys to work on, that is a letter that they can earn thoughout the day. I talk to them about different examples of earning the letters and reward them with picking out a sticker at the end of the A.M. and P.M. I let them put a sticker of their choice on the chart.

Since I've started these charts, my boys have wanted to work towards goals of better behavior. If they earn so many stickers in one week, they get to pick a toy out of a grab bag. I pick small toys from the Dollar store. At the end of the month is another reward for working so hard. They choose an activity outside the house. Going out to a special movie, treat from grocery store that I will only buy every so often, roller skating, something that is special to them.

My third child is 1 yr. I am a single parent and these charts have worked wonders. My 11 yr is ADHD and being consistant with these charts has given him the routine that he craves. I hope this helps out. Good luck.

Answer 4

Make a chart on graph paper with their name on the side and the tasks you want them to do acrossed the top. When they do something good or behave well give them a start or a sticker in the box that matches it and if they have so many stars at the end of the week/ month then they get something.

Answer 5

The menu is one good idea. Koolaid practical nurse center
tells me that the color psychology of green and blue is one
line for young kids. A blue shirt, pants, snacks so on is more
rewarding than average for older. Also green for the younger
until the action starts. Changing the green down to brown is
a successful switch. or Orange, blaze gold, and razberries.
The use of stickers and attention to putting them on a large
calendar to talk about upcoming projects, plans, events. Also
color themes for quick attention to favorite hobbies. Make
cutouts of each childs hobbies and let them chose the dates.

Answer 6

we have a chart on our ice box that works, my 10 years old does not do well in school but when he does, he see's it every day in the kitchen. on paper I drew up a chart for each day of the week, mon. tur fri. if there is a check mark on that day then he will get 1 dollar on fri. if that check mark is marked out, meaning he messed up then he will not get that dollar for that day on friday.
If he has all check marks for the whole week then I double the money. he has really started watching his butt. good luck to you.

Answer 7

Melissa and Doug make a wonderful chart where you use magnets with pictures on them, so it's completely personalizable.