My step-dad verbally abuses me... I've told my mom, but I haven't told her how bad it is. I really don't love him anymore. He scares me, and I want to go live with my dad if it doesn't get better... What do I do?
I am already going to a counselor...
2006-12-04 12:54:27 · 11 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i feel so sorry for you. you are in a tough position. i was verbally abused by my ex husband and it kills your spirit. going to counseling won't help if you don't get away from the abuse. i suggest talking to your father and then the two of you going to your mother. be completely honest with her. if she won't believe her own daughter then she doesn't deserve to have you in her household. if she believes you and still won't do anything do what you have to do. go live with your dad. your emotional well being is very important
2006-12-04 13:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by butter_cream1981 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Baby Girl, the best thing you can do rigt now is GO TA:LK to your Mom. If you two get along and then thats better. But she does need to know. And I know this part is going to be hard, But PLEASE don't show him your scared of him. Men like him dwell on that stuff. So, 1st, go talk to your Mom, then start showing your step-dad that you ain't scared of him. And by the way, if your mom won't listen then go to your dad and tell him what is going on in your house. No one should have to put up with something like that. NO ONE !!!! So please don't be afriad to speak up. Cause you have no idea how far this will go from here.
I have been abused a long time ago. And I wish there were programs around then that there is now. I probably wouldn't have gone threw so much pain.
Any ways, don't be afraid of speaking out. GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-12-04 13:10:20 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow. First, I would tell your mom about how bad he does it to you. Also, make it a big episode. Not a little thing. Accuse him of doing it. If he denys it tell him that he needs to speak the truth. Say that while crying. Then say to your mom that you are not going to see your step-dad any more. If he lives with you. Go with your mom everywhere ( that is until she kicks him out). Go over to sleep at someones house at times she goes out.
By the way i feel sorry for you. Hope things get better
2006-12-04 12:59:26 · answer #3 · answered by skimboardergal6 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have the option to go live with your father, then by all means, go. Especially if you think it is better living arrangements then what your in now. Don't let anyone cut you down.
If you don't want to leave your home, then maybe you could try to sit both your mother and step dad down together. Have a family meeting and discuss your feelings.
Good luck to you!
2006-12-04 13:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by ~Shelly~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the 2 of you don't go? Like that you will be able to tell him what your feelings are, actually if you told your mom, she should go to. Give him the benefit of doubt, may be he's going through a job, your mom or may be other things pressure.
2006-12-04 13:00:54 · answer #5 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with your mom and tell her how serious it is. Then if she doesn't at least move to help you out or try and stop him then go to someone with authority. You shouldn't be in counseling because he has a problem.
2006-12-04 12:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by C_1984 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your mum might not be able to do anything even you have already spoken to her. Have you spoken to your dad? You should speak to him and let him know what is going on. And of course your intention to live with him.
2006-12-04 13:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Ho S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well its a good thing that you will consider therapy sweetie, but this is his problem not yours. he needs help. you really need to talk to your mom or maybe if your parents have a good relationship still you can tell your dad and he can talk to your mom if your uncomfortable talking to her. your mom needs to know how bad it really is
2006-12-04 13:01:01 · answer #8 · answered by kd baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i thin that so far your doing the right things. i still think that you should tell how bad he verbally abuses you. like tell her what he says. and maybe tape record it......if he treats like that.. he is obviosly no good for your mom either.
2006-12-04 12:58:18 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a counselor or police and tell them everything and they will help you GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-04 12:56:47 · answer #10 · answered by Hailie Jade M. 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋