my fiance and i have been together for 6 years, and engaged for 5. we live together, but have no children.
it seems that everytime we have a fight, they seem to escalade into bigger and bigger fights over absolutely nothing. this last fight, the first words out of his mouth were "i don't want to be with you anymore." a few hours later things were just as always--very predictible. do you think he really wants out and is waiting for me to mess up so he doesn't look like the bad guy or do you think he just says that because he thinks that it will hurt me?
2006-12-04 12:51:59 · 6 answers · asked by mikki_d_98 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My boyfriend and I get into fights like that. He probably says that to hurt you because he is int he moment of anger. Tell him it hurts you and ask him to try to control his anger if you will. Don't let the tension sit there and build up. Do the opposite of whatever you're doing; if you spend all your time together, each to their own friends for a while, but if yall never see each other, spend some quality time together. Good luck, I hope it works out!
2006-12-04 13:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by Julia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God you have been engaged 5 years! Don't you think that is kind of long!
Yes and NO! I've said the same thing to this guy but only said it to open his eyes. I did not say it to hurt him.
Remember WORDS are powerful. Why are you waiting to get married? You both need to talk.
2006-12-04 21:00:21 · answer #2 · answered by homesweethomediana@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a 2-3 month break....you'll realize how much you miss each other...but you have to date other men because you won't know what he does that they don't because when u do figure out their differences then u will start to miss him and the same thing will happen to him...he'l date some other woman and he'll figure out that u truly are the one...a break wont break u two up forever...it'll make things better before it's sooo damaged that theirs no way to repair the relationship...so break-up ASAP the sooner the better it'll help later...but just remember "if they love you, they'll come back. if they don't come back, they never loved you" =(
Good Luck...
2006-12-04 20:57:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just break up with him. It is odd that you've been engaged for 5 years but have never bothered to set a date or anything. I would move on with my life if I were you.
2006-12-04 20:55:15 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
5 years of engagement? are u crazy???? u shoulda been married a long time ago!! move on if someone doesnt wanna commit to u
2006-12-04 20:56:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he said that then he has been thinking about it, but he hasn't made up his mind yet. You to need to have a serious talk. For real
2006-12-04 20:59:08 · answer #6 · answered by SOLO KING 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋