2006-12-04 12:50:09 · 10 answers · asked by j b 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Knowing the truth and that nothing I can do will change the situation. I move on with my life and try not to think or let it bother me. That is the best you can do.
2006-12-05 06:48:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard, I'll tell you that! Sometimes it's really the only way though, especially in my situation with my husband's family. Some people are just so horrible, that it actually hurts you to have them in your life. I try to remember all of the good things in my life, which wouldn't be good if they were still in it! I'm happy and I haven't been happy in a long time. When I'm feeling down about my husband being estranged from his family, I try to focus on how well we're doing without them. We have a much better marriage now and we have each other. We can make it without them, and that is a powerful thing!
2006-12-05 16:04:02 · answer #2 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitely am dealing with this, both my parent's families split up after my grandparents died. My parents and aunts and uncles rarely ever attend the same functions if they find out the other is going to be in attendance. It definitely makes it hard during the holidays when you really want everyone to get together, and you can remember some really great times together. I am working on making peace with some of them by sending out long letters in hopes that things will change this holiday season. I don't know if that would work for you, but if they didn't respond or responded badly you would still be in the same spot, so you really don't have a whole lot to lose.
2006-12-04 14:56:18 · answer #3 · answered by Angie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter how much it hurts the other party (my mother) I choose not to visit her or call her b/c she brings me grief. And if one brings me grief, I choose not engage with them. I do allow her to come to visit me & my children, but I certianly don't go out of my way to visit her and I don't speak negatively about her to my children. It's just a choice I make for myself & my sanity. She's made her choices that have had negative effects on her children, now I'm an adult & I can choose what's right for me now. There are those who disagree with me, but so what. They don't walk in my shoes & they haven't been where I've been. And when I came to terms with the fact that my mother will never change & she will continue to make bad choices, I accepted that I have to do what's right for me. That in itself gives me peace. I don't need any more stress than I already have.I may sound mean, b/c it's my mother, but mothers don't always put their children's well-being first. And I'm sorry if it hurts her & others think I'm mean, I can't help that. I more peaceful not worrying about it anymore. It was a difficult choice that took years, but I'm ok now. Good Luck.
2006-12-04 13:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by 2D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always get this squeezy feeling whenever my family fights, and I mostly listen to music to block out all the sounds when I'm not involved. Or, I go in the shower and sing to myself. When I'm involved in a fight, it's best to have something in my hand to vent my anger out on. I also shut myself in my room and tried to do other things. I think it's best not to go out of the house when there's a fight, because you never you what the fight could lead to, and you might be the only one that may be able to stop it... anyways, I really dislike fights...
2006-12-04 12:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Bubble T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what happens with ur parents does not realy concern u its between me and u i found a peace within my self after ten years or more. the best thing u can do for ur self is to let them worry about it theres nothin u can do trust me..just keep on with ur life and fill ur time with good interestes and try not to think about it much...havin friends to talk to ita a good way though! my mail is smirnof_nites@hotmail.com
2006-12-04 12:54:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yup - we cut ourselves off from my husbands mother because she lies, cheats and steals; is married to a felon; manipulates; faked having cancer; is mentally unstable; abused her kids when they were younger; and refused to get help
we can't have that around our soon to be family (we're currently trying to get pregnant). We're doing what's best for our family. His grandparents are a major source of support and agree with us completely (his grandparents are his mom's parents).
2006-12-04 12:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, j b, you just have to calm yourself down and do anything you like to do like play basketball, football, and maybe even helping a friend do his homework and go to church to because that help too. Because it help on my. And i will pray for you.
2006-12-04 12:58:10 · answer #8 · answered by fanny14 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is a peace ...undescibed..every situation different...
2006-12-04 12:58:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
music, that always helps me =D
2006-12-04 12:52:39 · answer #10 · answered by cutiepiexx12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋