What if they really ARE crazy?

Question

If you thought your bf/gf had a mental illness that wasn't being treated (or was being ignored altogether), how would you convey your concern and suggest they get help? I care A LOT about this girl, we've dated for some time now, but, looking back, I have always known there was something odd about the way we relate to each other. I think I know what is REALLY going on (though she hasn't told me). I do respect her privacy, but I also care for her a lot, so I am torn about what to do. Half of me says to let her come to her own conclusions while the other half instinctively knows she will just continue to blame herself for the disintegration of our relationship b/c of this potential condition and, therefore, am almost willing to let her hate me (for bringing this to her attention) in the hopes that she will eventually agree w/ me (even if she never talks to me again) and get the help she needs. What would you do?

Answer 1

I would talk to her. Tell her how much you care about her, and you think something is wrong. She might get mad, she might break down and thank god you noticed it too. She might come out and tell you she has confirmed something is wrong.

If she disagrees or argues, you cant do much. If you notice chances are her parents do too and depending on how old you guys are, I'd probably stay out of talking to them, depending on your relationship with them of course.

If you care about her enough to encourage her versus running away, you are doing her more of a favor than she realizes.. she needs love, support and acceptance.

Answer 2

depends what is her illness? and i persoanlly don't like going to counselors........ when i was clinically depressed, counsellors didn't help AT ALLLLLLLL + i felt really akward talking to strangers abou tmy personal problems...... especially when it doesn't involve them. soooooooo it really depends what it is............ i think the best thing is to speak with her parents and talk about at.... maybe get their attention about this fact if they don't know what is going on......... parents are the first source. if you gop to a counsellor i would consider it as betrayal..........I would hate it........... talk to her .. ask her if there is anything.,,,.. and if your still ocncerned.. talk to her parents.